i'm pregnant , first month,sooooooo depressed.Is this normal?

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Paulette - posted on 01/21/2009

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Oh Serene, No wonder your feeling depressed. You are overwhelmed and are doing a lot of the raising of your daughter. We are all here for you...with tips and advice in any area you need or want. Try to take it one day at a time. I would go to therapy so that you have an unbias opinion that is local. Ok...I would try to get some friends and/or family around for support. I would then I would come up with a game plan for what you want to accomplish...job, where do you want to go with your immediate family, try to enjoy the pregnancy even though it was not planned. Think about the moment you held your daughter for the first time and how you fell in love with her. That is what will happen with this child too. I think the therapist will be able to give you solid advice on your husband too. Remember you are not alone. =0) Take care.

Debra - posted on 01/21/2009

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What are you depressed about? Is it anything particular or just in general?
I wouldn't say its normal or not normal, its hard to say with all the hormones and everything. I went through it with my third but it was a high risk pg (I almost lost him a bunch of times) and I was depressed before hand from it taking so long to fall pregnant.

I would talk to you doctor about how your feeling, he or she should be able to help in some way.

Janet - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hormone and chemical changes due to your pregnancy can cause depression, I think.  Please contact your doctor and let them know.  It's important that you share any concerns with him so that he can help you understand your changing body.  

Brianna - posted on 01/21/2009

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hi!! i know wot u mean bout the husband. my partner is very much the same. i hav a 9 month old daughter and just found out i hav post natal depression. part of it is that i feel like im doing absolutely everything myself with no help from my partner or my family and i told my dr this. she put a plan in place and told him that i need a lot more support than hes giving and that he needs 2 step it up. surprisingly he actually listened 2 the dr and is getting better at helping. maybe taking ur husband with u 2 a dr or therapist might make him c that he needs 2 help u a lot more. sometimes they just need a kick up the butt from a professional. pregnancy is hard enuf without a child and unsupportive hubby as well. good luck!!

Serene - posted on 01/21/2009

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i'm so impressed u brought me to tears.it's hard to be with someone and live with him when u have no minimum emotion towards him or between each other.ever since i got married to him i feel insecure , alone and ignored.i have a great family but they can only listen and give advices.they can never change the way i feeel

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Jessie - posted on 08/02/2012

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my name is jesse i hve just found out on july 21 tht i was pregnaunt im recntly 18 years old on th da i foundout i was pregnaunt the dad is sort of shocked and he plans not to be around so wt shud i do

Alanna - posted on 01/21/2009

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No wonder you are depressed! Do you have friends or family to talk with? Can you go see a therapist? You need support sweetie. Not just with the pregnancy, but with your husbands reaction as well as having another child. good luck! If I can help with anything, let me know. I am a marriage and family therapist.

 



Kimberly - posted on 01/21/2009

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Are you feeling sick? I was horribly sick during my pregnancies and as a result, very depressed. I can honestly say that my two pregnancies were the WORST 18 months of my life, no question. Of course, I was happy to be pregnant -- I wanted children, but I felt so awful that I was miserable. And I found that there are many women out there who were also miserable during their pregnancies -- they just aren't as vocal as the happy 'bubble bellies'. So you are definitely not alone. I would say it is completely normal to be depressed. But if you are concerned that you might hurt yourself, by all means see a professional!  Hang in there! It's all worth it in the end (and this is coming from someone who *hated* ever second of her pregnancies with a fiery passion).

Serene - posted on 01/21/2009

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thank u all 4 your concern,this is my second baby but  i was astonished when i was informed that i'm pregnant! i'm not prepared 4 it. my husband is emotionless he doesn't support me at all and not responsible at all

Anita - posted on 01/21/2009

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i know how you feel i was like that for the first 3 months lv, but dont worry it will get better, take some time out to have a nice relaxing bath everyday, and dont be afraid to tell folk to go away if your ha ving some you time

Erin - posted on 01/21/2009

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Sweetie, this is so normal it isn't funny.  Mania, depression, obsession, all common in the first trimester.  You'll settle down in a few months.  Good luck!



 



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Jolene - posted on 01/21/2009

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It's normal to feel down or maybe cry a little. But if you think it's more then that or are extremly depressed you may want to speak with your doctor.

Kimberly - posted on 01/21/2009

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Are you feeling sick? I was horribly sick during my pregnancies and as a result, very depressed. I can honestly say that my two pregnancies were the WORST 18 months of my life, no question. Of course, I was happy to be pregnant -- I wanted children, but I felt so awful that I was miserable. And I found that there are many women out there who were also miserable during their pregnancies -- they just aren't as vocal as the happy 'bubble bellies'. So you are definitely not alone. I would say it is completely normal to be depressed. But if you are concerned that you might hurt yourself, by all means see a professional!  Hang in there! It's all worth it in the end (and this is coming from someone who *hated* ever second of her pregnancies with a fiery passion).

Paulette - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi Serene, What is depressing you? Did you suffer with 'baby blues' after your pregnancy with you daughter? By the way your profile picture is sooo sweet. The other ladies are right that hormones and body changes are affecting your mood. It will even out but it is not easy at the moment but it will. Talking to all of us mom's is one way to help and talking to your doctor is a good idea too. The doctor may want to do a medication but if you do not want that then you could opt for therapy. It just depends on how depressed you feel and what route you and your doctor decide is best. Try to take your vitamins, fine tune your diet and exercise because it does help the mood(s). These 3 areas can help with depression. I hope you will keep us posted...take care.

Maira - posted on 01/21/2009

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I do not think its normal, unless you have already a history of depresion. Is this your 1st child? If so, your might be confusing, depression with concern about something unknown for you. I would talk to your doctor, if you do not have any idea of why are you feeling depressed. Were you looking to get pregnant? or it wasnt expected? there could be a lot of reasons for depression. It's true that hormone and chemical changes can cause depression, but feeling depressed for a long period of time while pregnant, it's not normal (you are only a month). Talk to a good friend about any concerns you might have in your mind. Good Luck! and remember a child is always a blessing from GOD!

Amy - posted on 01/21/2009

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Quoting Serene:

i'm pregnant , first month,sooooooo depressed.Is this normal?




It's neither normal or abnormal. It's part of many women's pregnancies, though.  I highly recommend that you speak with your Obstetrician about it at your next visit. 



 



For your convenience, I've put a link to a great article...



http://www.babycenter.com/0_depression-d...

Damelys - posted on 01/21/2009

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Serene, because of your hormonal changes, mood swings are very normal. Just make sure you have people around you to lift up your spirit. Pregnancy is an absolutely beautiful stage...enjoy it. Remember, you are carrying a precious gift inside...someone who is going to grow up to be someone amazing!!!! That should cheer you up a little!!!!

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