I'm pregnant with no support.

Victoria - posted on 04/01/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have been in a committed relationship for a year. It was a fairy tale for me and my boyfriend when we both started dating- everything we do was meant to be (atleast we thought so). Mind you, we both came from unfaithful relationships- so, we both practiced to gain that faith and trust back towards our relationship. We are two jealous people but yet still have that trust that we wouldn't do anything to hurt each other. We moved in together in a one bedroom apartment and were able to financed two beautiful cars.
We are both loving, caring and affectionate couple- we have ups and downs but we are able to lift each other up from our fights. Not to mention, he is going through a divorce with two lovely kids whom i love as if they're my own. We both have faith in God and believe that God works in mysterious ways- Came to find out I'm pregnant, "abortion" was an option. I did not think for someone who truly loves and cares for me would consider me getting an abortion. I was up for it but I came to realize what if this is not an accident? God's blessing is NEVER an accident- it's a challenge but yet a joy to have.

Since we found out I'm pregnant- I was crushed by the decision he made. I don't want him to think I'm trapping him. You think he doesn't want to have another child because he's going through a divorce and scared to have the same ending from his previous marriage? I want to keep this child because it's a gift from God. And I believe that God will guide and be there for me throughout my life!

I know a lot of us women go through this- I don't stress as much because I care about the baby in my stomach. We are such strong human beings that we do whatever it takes to make everything work out the way it should it be. NOW, that we are all carrying a human being in us- It's all about keeping the baby healthy and safe in your body. Let's not stress about the father or who will help you raise the baby. The more you enjoy your pregnancy and embrace God's gift to us- I am guaranteed that God has MORE THAN A BLESSING to our life and our child. Keep your head up and leave it up to God.

Let's stay strong and positive!

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[momoftwo] - posted on 04/01/2014

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Well he should have known pregnancy could happen from having sex obviously lol.
And it's also your body, you can do whatever you think is right for you and the life of the baby. It truly is a gift from god.
My ex wanted me to abort my daughter when we found out I was pregnant and I put my foot down because its so stupid for people to think you can have sex and then whenever there is an "ooops" you can just abort it easily like its nothing and then just continue going back to sex... it's sick really.
anywho, after she was born after she turned a year old he left us.. which was the best thing he could have done to us (hes truly a terrible person) and now shes an amazing little 6 year old girl with an amazing step father and she now has a little brother lol. Kids are awesome. its truly rewarding to be a parent I couldnt ask for a better thing in life.
Guys come and go but kids are forever! Please don't make a stupid decision to keep him though because I think your baby has more worth to you than he does.
And by the sounds of it you already know you want to keep the baby.
I would have never forgiven myself if I did what that moron wanted me to. And it's just morbid how they "abort"... :( it's manslaughter I swear.

And when I was lost and confused someone really made me think by telling me "you never know, this could be the only baby you could ever have"

You can also reassure him you are NOT his ex wife and are not going to put him through the same situation he is going through, and its not to trap him either. It's giving that baby love and a chance at life that all of our parents did for us. God bless your heart, you are a strong woman. Stand up for you and your baby.

Natashia - posted on 04/01/2014

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definitely keep the baby or consider adoption. It definitely takes two. Sex is a risk every time. I went through the same thing but i was the one in the middle of divorce and I have two children already. Its a part of life. No one plans for what could happen any minute of every day. Keep your chin up! I live by "Everything happens for a reason". Never forget it. We send lots of love your way. I now have a beautiful baby boy because I held on during the hardest of times don't give up and if you need to chat and your feeling down or overwhelmed please contact me. Id love to help. Seriously :) I don't know you but hey its worth it to help someone in a very similar situation. Keep being strong.

Marcela - posted on 04/01/2014

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WOw!!How sad he should of thought about this before because it takes two. But I think you will be just fine without him since you are wanting this and being so positive about it. Especially if its your first you should enjoy every single moment of it because you only live it once. Make sure to take lots of pictures of yourself thru out your pregnancy. That's something I regret not doing :( Im sure he will regret it at one point or another but you don't need him you wont be the first single mother out there and believe me with him being so negative about it you are way better without him. A baby is always a blessing not everyone gets to have that blessing :) And yes stay positive

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/02/2014

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" Victoria Bumagat - posted 8 hours ago

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He thinks i'm aborting the baby, I'm making him think I am and I told him it's none of his business to the decisions I make for the me and the baby."



This IS lying to him. You said you are making him think you are which is indeed lying.

Listen, you are the one that posted this, so you are going to get differing opinions on the issue. I for one would NEVER make a man think I was aborting his baby. I do not lie. Especially about such important issues.

Victoria - posted on 04/02/2014

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We did not cheat with each other NOR cheated on our previous significant other. I'm not telling women not to get an abortion. EVERYONE has their own decision and opinion. Regardless of what decision I make- I will live with it and embrace it. I'm not lying to him by not telling him I'm keeping the baby. For now, It's best for me to not really involve him in my business.
You and I are different human beings and you obviously have your own opinion about this. I am standing up on my own independently and I have been. The best thing for him right now is to not be involved since he hasn't been. He would only communicate with when he asks me about the abortion.
I do what's best for me, I've done my part in our relationship for doing the best I could to be the woman I need to be and becoming. -It's now time for him to step up and see what he really wants to do with his life, I'm not referring to having a baby with me, but for him to reach his goals and motivate himself to be a better man.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/02/2014

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Oh and just curious, did you cheat with each other and end the previous relationships?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/02/2014

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So much wrong with this post. To me, it sounds like this post is just you standing on your soap box telling women not to abort.

You both have faith in God, and with that you have express your distaste of abortion because it is a gift from God. Right? You LYING to him about having his BABY is AWFUL! He doesn't want it fine, then he can sign over his rights when the baby is born. Do not hide this from him, you have NO RIGHT! He may not want you to carry this baby, but you know what? He cannot force you to have an abortion. Just like if the roles are reversed and you didn't want the baby and he did, you have the choice over your own body. Don't be a liar, I hear God doesn't like that.

[momoftwo] - posted on 04/02/2014

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I'm 22 as well. I'll be 23 in June :P
And you'll do great. It's normal to be nervous

Victoria - posted on 04/02/2014

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Thank you! I'm 22 years old. So i know that I'm ready and i have fears. Regardless, I'm excited!!!!

[momoftwo] - posted on 04/02/2014

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In my situation I was 16 at the time but I put my foot down too I said you can stay or go either way I'm going to take care of the baby.
We moved to his parents house and they helped me with her and then the dumbass left us when she was a year old but it was good because he is just down-right terrible.

But you should start making doctors appointments because you now need prenatal care which is super important and you need prenatal vitamins, and congrats by the way :)

Victoria - posted on 04/02/2014

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He thinks i'm aborting the baby, I'm making him think I am and I told him it's none of his business to the decisions I make for the me and the baby.

Anyway- I'm to this motherhood. Ever since I found I'm pregnant I haven't gone to any docotrs. What was your first step?

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