Sara - posted on 07/29/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
We haven't seen them for almost a month and a half now and they live 1.8 MILES away from us. Before this, they would make little to no effort to see our two girls (ages 1&2). We would always have to pack our children up and go see them, even though they are fully capable of coming over to our house. His mother has a very busy social life, including exercise classes and trips with her girlfriends. To me, it seems like she's too busy to care about seeing our kids so instead, she buys them expensive gifts to make up for her not being around. I have tried for over 3 years now to deal with his mother, but I feel like I can't take anymore, especially because I'm pregnant again. I'm feeling so much anxiety in this pregnancy, to the point where I feel like I should tell my doctor that I think I need to see a therapist, but I don't want to seem crazy! In the past, his mother has compared me to my husband's ex wife, insulted my religion multiple times, talked about how she doesn't like my mother right in front of me on more than one occasion, and disrespected my husband in front of me and the girls (by bringing up his past marriage and saying that he doesn't do anything for his parents-even though we are there whenever the need us). His parents both have a problem with alcohol and I feel like I can't trust them to be around the girls alone. His mother will lie about how much she has had to drink (we've caught her lying multiple times). My husband even had to rush her to the hospital last year because she drank 8 beers and mixed two cough medicines with all the drinking. Her husband found her the next morning, unresponsive, after she had fallen in her own vomit in the bathroom. I am not familiar with this kind of behavior from a 65 year old woman, as my parents did not drink when we were young, and my grandparents never drank at all. What caused this current seperation (this isn't the first time she has tried to "write us off") was my husband simply asking her to spend more time with the girls by coming to our house to see them more often. Her response was, "I'm done". So, we haven't seen them for a month and a half now and I'm wondering if it is wrong of us to not pursue a relationship with them, especially considering that she is the one who cut us off? Also, we never told them that I am pregnant with our third, but they probably heard it from other family members already. Just looking for advice on how to deal with this craziness-my husband seems fine with never talking to them again, and I'm starting to get to that point as well.