Haley - posted on 11/12/2014 ( 17 moms have responded )
My boyfriend has a 13 month old son. I've been in his life since my SS was 5 months old. The BM is "active" in his life. But she only sees the baby 1-4 times in two weeks. She makes excuses constantly as to why she needs us to take him, or why she can't pick him up. She is on her second child from another man, due in 2 months. She also does not have a job. Myself and the father take care of SS ourselves. Now I take care of him more than anyone. SS comes with me to work every morning. I feed him, bathe him, put him sleep, play with him, and financially take care of him along with his father. I became a full time mother to a child that isn't even mine. I'm not sure if I am able to have children, but besides that, i see a child that is still new to this world who deserves the love and care from a proper mother, and I am happy to provide that. I just want to know if I'm doing the right thing. If i should be SO active in his life. I mean my SS already calls me momma. He loves me and I love him, and i am beyond in love with his father.