I'm running out of punishments for my teens!

Debra - posted on 07/03/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have 3 teenagers. 2 boys and a girl. They don't listen to what I tell them (mostly the boys) and they are always fighting. I have always grounded for bad behaviour but now they just walk out of the house and completely ignore the rules. Any ideas on how I can get more respect from them?


Jodi - posted on 07/03/2016




Have you considered also removing privileges....like their beds, everything except their basic necessities, their access to electronics, tv, internet, phone, even considered giving them a box of basic foodstuffs and telling them they have to fend for themselves, including preparing it, because you aren't going to be taken for granted? Heck, even a bedroom door is a privilege.


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Sarah - posted on 07/03/2016




Unless they are walking to their destination or communicating with a pickup via telepathy, you have options. I have four kids and when my 15 yo felt he was the boss of his life and did not need to listen to me or dad; we took action.
You must only supply shelter, food and a change of clothing. All else is a bonus and disobedient children do not get bonuses.
We stripped my son's room bare of all things; bed, dresser, lamps, door and we left him with a blanket, flashlight and a pillow. His phone and computer were also confiscated. One change of a school uniform was left for him and the bedroom door removed. When the pleas of "I need my computer for school" came , we told him "too bad,call a friend and get a ride to the library" but I have no phone, "oh that's too bad, ask your sister to borrow hers"
When my son (and his younger siblings saw that we meant what we said and rules were not optimal) their behavior improved globally. Slowly, day by day my son earned back his clothing, door, furniture, phone, computer and bed. You gotta mean what you say and follow thru with consequences. Once you are played a fool, the kids will walk all over you.
Was doing that to my son a huge hassle? Absolutely. Would I do it again? You bet. I have not had an issue with any of my four ever since and that was nearly 5 years ago.

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