I'm scared beyond scared!!

Bethany Leigh - posted on 09/20/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




I'm currently 17 years and about 5 weeks from my 18th birthday! I took a test this morning and that was my fourth one in two days. The last 3 said two lines and todays one. Sadly as a stupid teenager this isnt my first attempt with a pregnancy test. Not going to lie, I've been trying with my fiance to get pregnant for 9 months now!!! No protection for 9 months. I went to the doctor two weeks ago and they wanted to put me on birth control and if I really wanted a baby try again at 19. I didn't find that helpful. So I came home researched and took 3 tests. One + one - and one blank. I'm scared as to why 7 tests can't tell me anything, oh and the two and the doctors that came up blank and blank. I'm tired of being told I might be A. infertile, B. not trying at all, or C. far to young to get pregnant at all. I'm almost 18, i have friends younger than me with 2 year olds. I need words to keep me calm till i can calmly go about this correctly. Am I dumb for wanting a child at 18? Is there something I'm missing? I'm currently on my 2nd week of Folic Acid trying to help, but my thoughts keep turning to the worst. I need advice before i explode into tears. sorry this was so long. and i don believe in "god" so im t=not trying to be mean but god is not gonna do any thing for me


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/20/2013




First of all, wait until you're married. Engaged is NOT married, and a baby changes EVERYTHING.

I started trying to conceive at 16, didn't conceive until 24. That tells me that God wasn't ready to make me a parent yet.

Patience is a good thing.

Deisy - posted on 09/20/2013




Dear Bethany,

First, A child is God given, and there is no reason to be panic if He has not given you one, or worse, ever, because He knows better.

Now back to the issue of teenager being pregnant, there is a lot of consideration on why any doctors would say that you should wait. Any mother would agree too. That is, having a child is altering your lifestyle. Forever. Kids are not always cute and adorable, they have tantrums, they have problems, they can test you patient to the limit, and not to mention changing the way you earn and spending money. You had written it yourself: “Sadly as a stupid teenager….” I hope you don’t have any doubts that you are strong, mature, enough to handle such a big responsibility. Enough said, I won't say that you should wait, because, any teenager in the world would never listen to adults anyway.
So, if you are sure that you can raise a human being into a best environment available, where he/she can increase his/her quality of life, not just buying a cute clothes and matching shoes, but enroll them into whatever courses, school, university their heart desire, no matter how expensive they are, then you should stop wasting your money on pregnancy tests. Instead buy a fertility test, follow you chart, and take your fiance for a fertility test too. It takes two to tango.

Erika - posted on 09/20/2013




Hi Bethany. First of all just calm down and relax! Sometimes it's hard to get pregnant but that doesn't mean you can't have babies. Also the harder you try to get pregnant the longer you will take or so I was told! When I tried to get pregnant it took me like 2 months the first time I got pregnant!! Trust me those two months were the longest!! So I guess just relax leave it in gods hands and pray for the best :) oh and don't think you're dumb for wanting a baby! You're engaged and soon to get married so its normal to wanna start a family! Take care!
God bless!

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