I'm scared to get pregnant again !!

Leslie - posted on 12/29/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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First child was emergency c-section , which I had 2 years ago and now my husband is constantly telling me he wants another child but I'm scared to have another csection and I want to have my next baby normal !! Idk what to do !!

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/29/2015

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Of course you are. So was I. I felt raped of a chance to have a vaginal birth. I had major pain after, and up until my next pregnancy, I had a lot of scar tissue and pain at the surgical site. The pregnancy and stretching fixed that. Not sure if it broke down the scar tissue or what.

Maybe you are just not ready yet. Maybe in another year or two you will be. No one will be able to tell when you are, and you may not even know you are ready until it happens.

I had a lot of fear and resentment when I got pregnant. Not of my baby, just of the chance of having another c section and having no control over my birth. Please follow my previous recommendations of "shopping around" for a doctor/midwife. If you really want a VBAC, you are going to have to do research, especially if you are in the states.

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Leslie - posted on 12/29/2015

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I do want another child ofcourse the only thing that stops me is having to go through all the pain and the fear of having something go wrong through csection! Also I would love to feel and see the vaginal birth and for it to be safer !! I'm just really paranoid of what went on through my first delivery that honestly I'm scared

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/29/2015

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But first things first, you really need to figure out if YOU want another child. Both of you need to be a team and agree.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/29/2015

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Do YOU want another baby?

I also had an emergency c section after hours of pushing. It makes it much harder to heal after trying to deliver rather than being scheduled. Your body goes through so much trying to deliver, then being cut on top of that is a lot for some to handle, and it was particularly hard on me, mentally and emotionally. I also didn't want to go through that again. I know exactly where you are coming from.

BUT, I do have 2 children now. I had a VBAC with my second (vaginal birth after c section). A lot of facilities don't offer that any longer, but if you find midwifes you have a better chance. Also, if you call the labor and delivery section of whichever hospital you want to deliver in, the nurses are a great reference for awesome doctors.

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