Yani - posted on 07/12/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have been in a loveless marriage for 8 years now. I thought having a child would change things but it only made things worse. We agreed to stay together for our child but I met someone else.
My husband found out I have been seeing someone else and I told him I want a divorce. One day he tells me he will respect my wishes and grant me a divorce, the next day he is plotting against me using my daughter.
I found someone in my community and fell in love with him. He is the greatest man I have ever met. We have been dating for almost a year now. I started to bring my boyfriend around my daugher a couple months ago but I have not shown any affection towards him while my daughter is present. He often gives us a ride home from her school and my daughter has taken a liking to him from what I can tell.
Recently my husband told my daughter he will have to move back home away from my daughter because Mommy has a boyfriend. My daughter is devastated.
I told my boyfriend that I can no longer bring my daughter around him. I can feel he loves my daughter as much as he loves me and he is heartbroken. We already don't have much time together and now even less. He told me that I've taken almost everything away from him, no time to spend together at night ever, we only spend time when my daughter is at school. He told me that there is nothing else left for us and said that if I can not bring my daughter around him then it is over. He also told me that it is better for me if he were to go away, he doesn't want my daughter to resent me because she loves her daddy.
My husband has been verbally abusive to me nearly every day of our marriage. I want to start a new life with my boyfriend but I do not know how to talk to my daughter and explain that I have a boyfriend and that he is the best thing that could ever happen to me and my daughter. If I don't bring my boyfriend around my daughter I am sure to lose him. What can I do?
She is only 5, can i have the conversation or do I not risk upsetting my daughter and give up the man of my dreams, who I am confident can provide for me and my daughter in a way I never could?