I'm sick of my daughter being bullied/threatened?

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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The aunt of the girl that bullies my daughter came to school and threatened my daughter because we reported the bullying?? I find this unbelievable ... an adult threatening a 13 y/o at a middle school. I am VERY angry and upset about this situation. My daughter said that the relative started shouting at her in their foreign language and made angry signs at her and the girl explained to her that her parents are mad that we reported the PREVIOUS issues but her AUNT who lives w/ her is completely outraged that her niece was being told on ... I don't know how to deal w/ this issue! My daughter got beatened up in 7th grade in the bathroom. It turned out that the school has a safety concern for this child, and it may be difficult for the school staff to explain some issues to the parents who do not understand fluent English.
This started out back when my daughter was about 9 ... and it was for being a "white person". Her school is made up of MOSTLY asians and this girl seems to come from a very racist family who lets her do what she wants - as I said in my last post. Any ideas? Her schoolmate told my daughter that her family's mad because the school had several safety concern meetings about setting limits/boundaries for kids because the school had concerns about her even BEFORE she started bullying :/ I don't know what's the main issue here but it seems like she's bullying because she knows that if she tells her parents/relatives, they'll be angry w/ us and she knows that she won't be in any trouble at all at home.

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Gena - posted on 09/30/2015

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I agree with all these ladies. Just one thing I wanted to mention. My friend goes to schools around the world to fight against bullying. You can find his videos on YouTube. Just type in : The scary guy against bullying. Yes he changed his name to the Scary guy and he is completely covered in tattoos...but he has a great message for anyone who is being bullied!!! He helped me alot to be more confident and shake off negative things people have said to me. I highly recommend you to watch his film WITH your daughter!

Emma - posted on 09/30/2015

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That is VERY wrong for ANY adult or KID! It sounds like it may have something to do with racism, as you said in the last post. Sarah, you mentioned that the parents "spoil" her in your last post? That's a big sign of bad parenting.
Get the police involved if it goes way too far.

Jenifer - posted on 09/30/2015

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If the school is not doing anything, go to the school board. You also might want to fine out which advocacy groups work in your district in the disability/SDC CLASSES.
This behavior from ANY student, and their family member is not acceptable!
If all else fails, speak with your police department. They should have a family resource department that may or may not be able to help. You need to document everything that is happening. If you felt threatened, what would YOU do?
As the mom of another bullied child, I'm going to district level, and after that, probably transferring my child.
Children should feel safe in their classrooms, and with staff there to support them. I'm happy to hear you are DEFINATELY in " mama bear" position and eager to support your child.
I am truly sorry this is happening to you both!!

Strong - posted on 09/28/2015

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From what you described, it sounds like your daughter has been dealing with some pretty unfair treatment. Have you heard of The Protectors? They provide parents with life-changing facts about which kids get bullied, why and what they should do to help their child. This is their website -- http://bit.ly/1KP38DH. You might also find this information helpful -- http://bit.ly/1ODybbF. And… I think you should certainly take this up with the school principal.

Jodi - posted on 09/28/2015

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Definitely contact the school principal about this. Noone who is not a student or working at the school should be on school grounds without the permission of the school, and a specific appointment with someone there, as it presents a potential safety issue. If there are language barriers, the school should be able to get hold of an interpreter and have a meeting with the family.

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2015

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I would HIGHLY recommend my daughter to buddy up w/ friend(s) and I'd also like to say that the parents are the MODELS who encourage this kind of behavior. Yes, I can see that it all starts w/ whatever kind of behavior goes on at home may influence the kids.
I assure you that my daughter will be at school w/ safety ;) and also I interpret that it may not always be that child's fault ... if her parents have raised her like that her whole life, spoiled her, and about the racist comments towards my daughter, etc. then the problem may start w/ the parents and if kids are raised like that then they may think it's okay even if it's unacceptable, their parents are the role models.

Sarah - posted on 09/28/2015

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I would speak to the principal for sure. It may be best if your daughter tell the principal personally what happened simply to improve the accuracy of the story. I am not saying you'd exaggerate, but once a story is repeated details can change. It may help for the principal to see how much this is upsetting your child as well. If the parents of this child struggle with English, the school should provide an interpreter so there is no misunderstanding. The aunt has a whole lot of nerve and should be ashamed of herself. Your daughter's safety must be a priority. Encourage her to buddy up when she goes to the restroom, or has to walk to or from the bus. Follow up in writing the details of your and your daughter's conversations with the principal so you have a paper trail of your communication.

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