I'm still uncomfortable with my body after having two kids, What can I do to boast my self esteem or accept my new body?

Heather - posted on 02/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I gained 70 lbs with my first in 2010 and 30 lbs with my second in 2012. The weight is not coming off like it did the first time with my daughter and even then I still felt huge and was holding steady at 178lbs but I'm only 5"2. With my son, I didn't gain as much weight as before but I am still tipping the scales at 185lbs. I am having difficulty finding clothes that are appropriate for my size and I feel like I'm still buying clothes for the body I had before my two kids. Buying clothes in the mall is an embarrassment for me anymore. I went to H&M like two or three weeks ago and asked a sales associate to help me find clothes in their Euro sizes but she ushered me into the Maternity section. After just having a baby 4 months ago. I don't want to wear maternity clothes and the clothes they had for my size were very unflattering and quite boring and they did not have a great deal of variety in larger sizes. In Forever 21, I had the same issue. I don't have time to exercise I'm 24/7 stay-at-home mom and my husband is of no help. I just don't feel attractive at all anymore and I feel like my body has aged like 30 years.


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Kay - posted on 02/08/2012




I second the video workouts idea. I actually use Zumba Fitness on our Xbox Kinect, and I love it. It is so much fun that even my five year old likes to jump in and dance with me.

I read an article by a stay at home mom who listed some great exercises that you can do around the house. I wish I could remember what it was called, but it was a while ago. Try googling the subject, because it was great advice. I am a working mom, but used some of her ideas to stay in shape while I was pregnant with our latest addition on days off, and while I was on maternity leave.

And it doesn't matter what size you are, having a baby takes a toll on everyone's self-esteem. My second was 10 lbs, 8.9 oz, and your hips just do not recover from that! ;)

You are definitely not alone in this! Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 02/08/2012




First, stop being so hard on yourself! Look at some of these HS age kids! They are huge and never had a baby, I know bunches of overweight women. Doesn't mean your less than a woman, just means you have more important things to worry about! Besides, big can be beautiful. I'd kill to look like Queen Latifah!

My life saver was video work outs. I could do them at home while the kids napped, played, or even joined me doing the work-out! You can find free rentals at the library and many video stores. If you have cable you can find channels that have workout shows, too. (Christian stations actually have them, and those were some of my favs!) You do NOT have to keep up, just try! You will be moving and it helps!

I also use ankle and wrist weights while working around the house and shopping. My legs and butt are show stoppers! People always ask how I do it! I started by just carrying a jug of water around as I went from room to room, but then bought the ankle weights and added the wrist weights later. I also have assorted hand weights that I will 'pump' while watching tv.

My calorie cutter was saying NO to pop, sweet tea, and no sugar in my coffee. They say a 500 calorie a day cut will make you loose weight. After cutting out sweet drinks I was down about 900 calories! I also stopped cleaning the kids plates after they ate. I load up on veggies and fruit, eat them as a first course, then go back for the calorie dense food. Also found that many microwave meals are really tasty, and many are under 300 calories. On sale I can get them for $2! I eat them for lunch and if I make a super calorie bomb for dinner.

It's probably cold now, but get a stroller and walk as much as you can. I walk to the post office and dollar general freqeuntly. That's a two mile trip for me. I had to work up to it, but it really didn't take long.

Look for changes in shape, not the scale. Once you start seeing muscle tone and your clothes feel better, it will encourage you! Good luck, if it want it, you can do it. I did. I'm not skinny, but I get plenty of compliments.

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