I need a few tips to teach a child to sooth herself to sleep, does anyone have any???

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My daughter is 6 months old and she still does not sleep through the night. My doctor told me that she should be so I have tried a few techniques to try but they have not seemed to work. I have tried letting herself cry so she can learn to sooth herself to sleep; it worked one day and then the next days after she just screamed her head off so I end up having to pick her up and then she is awake for 2.5 hours. Then I tried going in her bedroom giving her a bottle without picking her up then she would just sooth herself to sleep; it worked for two weeks and then it stopped working. She just started screaming her head off so I had to pick her up. Does anyone have any tips on other ways I canteach her to sooth herself to sleep??


Kate CP - posted on 01/06/2011




Every baby is different. 6 months is a prime age for babies to wake at night for extra feedings due to growth spurts. I would suggest you smile and nod at your doctor the next time he says something like this and follow your mommy instincts.

Renae - posted on 01/07/2011




Gee I love that docs are still saying that, and that medical school is still teaching it...despite all reasearch over the past 12 years showing that 50% of babies wake during the night until they are 12 months.

Please read my post in this thread, I just posted a withdrawal sleep program for someone else, it should work for you too. Once your baby can settle herself to sleep - without screaming - she will sleep through the night as soon as she is physiologically ready.



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Keri - posted on 01/07/2011




Sleeping through the night is defined as a child sleeping for 6 or more consecutive hours at a time most nights. Most children do not sleep through the night until they are 2 years old. At 6 months of age your daughter still very much depends on you to comfort her. She will self sooth when she is ready. I still get up with my daughter in the middle of the night. We usually go sit and rock for a few minutes and she goes back to sleep and I put her back in her bed. She will be 2 in a month.

Susan - posted on 01/07/2011




got to that special section that has relation sounds in the dept stores and play it during the day and at nite get different ones till u find the one that works and dont turn it up loud just keep it as back ground noise then she will get used to it so when she is alone she will here the sounds and relax

Iysha - posted on 01/06/2011




the way i found out if my daughter was waking out of habit rather than hunger was one night I was just too tired to get a bottle and just stuck the pacifier in her mouth for my extra 5 min of sleep. Before I knew it, it was wake up time. She would wake only once and so from then on I just stuck the binky in her mouth and within 3 days she was sleeping through the night. That was at 4 months of age. I also swaddles her so she was always snug. She is still half swaddled at 18 months but we dont have sleepless nights =] not everyone likes the binky or swaddle blankets but for me they worked.

Theresa - posted on 01/06/2011




None of my kids slept through until between 9 months and a year. Do what you feel is best. I found it easier just to pick them up, sit in a rocking chair and feed them. they would go right back to sleep. They each (I have 4 of my own and have had 2 foster children through that stage)eventually learned to sleep through the night on their own.

Sabra - posted on 01/06/2011




my thought is you are giving up to easily. one night is not going to be enough to get her to soothe herself to sleep. You are going to have to try something at stick with it for a couple of weeks before even thinking about changing things up.
At 6 months she could still be hungry in the middle of the night so it's normal for her to wake up. (I've heard its not until they are about 20 pounds that they are able to sustain themselves throughout the night)
It's very difficult but try not picking her up. It just shows that you will eventually give in and she will continue to scream until you do so. instead try rubbing or patting her back. If you do need to pick her up just do so long enough for her to calm down so that she can breathe properly again and then let her cry a little more.

Dora - posted on 01/06/2011




I know she is still young but start her on a bedtime schedule such as start with reading her a book (your never too young for books), then follow with sitting in her room with the lights out and talk to her softly, then place her in her crib after about 10-15 minutes. It may not work right away but give it a shot. Also make sure you stick to the same time every night.

Bethany - posted on 01/06/2011




From th beginning I gave my son his hand to suck on. Over time he would find his hand himself and wouldnt need me to put it to his mouth for him and now he found his thumb. Of cours its up to you whether or not you want to encourage this but I found it helps.

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