i need advice

Heather - posted on 08/24/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My 16 year old daughter has gotten pregnant by a 20 year old man, his family is ecstatic and congratulating them like the did a good thing . My daughter turns 17 next month and is planning on leaving with him is their anything i can do

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Michelle - posted on 08/25/2016

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Teens are very selfish. She doesn't really understand what you have done for but that shouldn't matter. We all do our best and do what we can for our kids, it's not until they grow up and have to fend for themselves that they realize. That's just all teens.
I would give her a bit of space, let her know that you will always be there when she needs you.
The more you push her to be with you and talk to you, the further away you will push her.
I know it's hard but you have to look at the long term relationship and hope that she comes around.
Hopefully she will see that he is controlling and get out of the relationship but you can't tell her, she won't listen to anyone that will say negative things about him. She has to find that our herself.

Heather - posted on 08/24/2016

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She wont talk to me without him around, so i cant really talk to her. Im just sad and heartbroken and dont understand why she doesnt want to go through this with me. I have been a sole parent so it has been trying, but i did my best and gave her all i had and now she wants to run away from me. I dont understand

Michelle - posted on 08/24/2016

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Since she isn't 18 yet you can try and stop her leaving but I'd say his family would probably help them out by the sounds of it.
You need to weigh up if it's worth taking the chance of her cutting you out of her life by trying to stop her or making the best of the situation and keeping an open relationship with her.
Maybe sit down and have a talk with her about what she is really wanting to do. Listen to what she says and come up with a solution together.

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