Shada - posted on 05/29/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
My son just turned 3 years old this May. I let his father come up here to see him since he hasnt seen him since he got out of prision in Aug. He was in prision since my son was 8 months old. I explained to him that he was not allowed to come to my house since I am married now and my husbands family is living with us. I have trust issues with him and disrespect issues. He does not understand the meaning of boundaries, has sexually harassed me, and has lied to me several times (that I have caught him telling me since he has been out). I do have a fear of him kidnapping my son since he lives 6 hours away He also has only paid his childsupport for 2 months and it is only 100.00 per month.
Anyway he came down here for the visit with some chick who I didnot know since he has a revoke license for DUI. I let him visit my son at the park here in town where I live for 2 hours the first day. It was probably the longest 2 hours of my life. He thought it was funny to keep getting in my personal space and decided that it was ok to just open my car for because he thought that my son needed to open the box of cars that he had bought for my son. I had put them in my car so he wouldn't lose of them.
So the next day I told him that he needed to meet me at my sons theropy session, and he didnt show up after I had called and texted him the time he needed to be there. So I called him when I got there and he said he just woke up. So I told him to go home. Then he decides to stake out my house and so I call the police for trespassing. Since he has no custody or visitation rights the police told him to leave.
My question is should I continue to deal with him and how because I have tried being nice, setting boundaries ect., or do I just let him take me to court to get visitation orders. . But he just does not seem to understand the fact that I have a life and do not want hiim in the middle of it.