Joe - posted on 06/29/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )
My daughter is almost 7 years old. She was 3 when her mother and I split up. I have been with my current wife since July 12'. We were married a year later. She has 4 children, ages, 17, 15, 13, 10. She was married for 16 years to her previous husband.
A year ago we went to a therapist and discussed the the new rule that no kids are allowed in the room or on the bed. I think it stems from my daughter one day giving my wife a dirty look when she came into the room, and it made her feel unwelcome. Well my wife is much more strict than I ever was or have been. She comes down on my kid when she doesn't eat everything on her plate, or that she leaves a pair of socks or her stuffed animal downstairs. I understand that she needs to pick up after herself, and tell her to do so, but I am much more gentler about this. Anyway, the no kid on the bed rule really upsets me. My daughter comes over once during the week and every other weekend, Fri, Sat, Sun evening. enjoy the cuddles and her wanting to snuggle up with me. My wife hates it now, and if my daughter is even in our room now, she will say, "what is she doing in here?" It drives me nuts.
Here I am thinking I am being a good father because I love spending quality time with my child, and now I am made to feel bad or have to run into my kid's room, and she wants me to leave the door open. AS if we are doing something wrong.
I need advice. Am I being overly sensitive and need to try to listen to my wife more? Or is my wife being overbearing, and asking to much of me?
Hoping to find some common ground.