I need advice after miscarriage (this is very long but I really need the advice ASAP)

Tyla - posted on 08/08/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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After trying for a while and going through fertility treatment for about 6 months my husband and I decided to take a break since it was getting close to our sons 3rd bday, during this "break" from treatment I became pregnant...needless to say we were so happy we could not believe that after all this time we were actually going to complete our family. I found out about 3 weeks after my positive home test that I was indeed 5 weeks and 2 days pregnant...We opted to only tell immidiate family such as our parents and siblings and of course our son who was really excited also (I had been prepping him for a new baby since we started trying when he was 18 months old). I counted everyday knowing that with each passing day I was less likely to miscarry (i have hypothyroidism which puts me at higher risk for miscarriage). I made all my appointments with my endocrinologist who monitered my thyroid and they assured me that they would see me every three weeks and make sure the levels were good for pregnancy. My fertility doctor monitered my pregnancy for the first 8 weeks. I went to my 6 week appointment and we saw our baby "perfect" were my doctors words...baby had a HB of 119 really strong for that stage of pregnancy I was told...at 7 1/2 weeks I had an appointment with my endo. to check my thyroid I went in and they did some blood work and said they would call with results in a few days. They called a few days later and said everything looked great and I needed no change in meds and schedualed me a follow up for 8-9-13 (which is tomorrow and yest I am still going). I felt great still on cloud 9 I blurted the news to my best friend who was also pregnant about 10 weeks ahead of me and had conceived her first child through IVF. At 8 weeks I went back to my fertility doctor and had another ultrasound and again "perfect, little arms and legs and a heartbeat of 150" I was overwhelmed with the feeling that everything was going "perfect"...at 9 weeks and 3 days I went to a BBQ at my sister in laws and we left our son there to spend the night so we could go home and decorate for his bday party which was the next day...when we got home I noticed some dark brown spotting and immidiatly called my doctor they said it was normal and not to worry I told them this did not happen in my first pregnancy but again she reassured me that this was absolutely normal this early in pregnancy...so I relaxed and finished up getting ready for the party and went to bed. I awoke the next morning still bleeding but thought "its normal" and went ahead and prepared for the party soon guests were arriving and we were eating cake and opening gifts and celebrated my big 3 year old boy!! That night I was still bleeding so I called the doctor once again and they asked if I was having any cramps I replied no nothing at all so they said it is normal. So we went to sleep...the next day was a Sunday and it was my sons BDAY we had his party a day early...when I awoke I had bright red blood all over me so I told my husband and we took our birthday boy to my sister in law and rushed to the ER I knew what was happening but did not want to admit it. The nurses at the ER were very sweet and did everything they could to get me to stay positve...they did an Ultrasound and the doctor came in with results "we got the ultrasound results, therre was no fetal heartbeat, it it fetal demise, sorry" he said and walked out of the room leaving me crying and my husband not knowing what he should do...the nurse came in and hugged me and cried a little with me and said sweetie they are very common there is nothing you could have done to change it. I heard this alot from my family that knew....its common, there is nothing you could have done, well at least you know you can get pregnant, you can get pregnant again, just some of the many things people thought would help me feel better I guess. Anyway my baby died on my sons birthday shortly after I left the ER I started having bad cramps and passing large clots and tissue. We told our son but he doesn't understand I think he has forgotten now that we don't talk about it. I am finally starting to feel better then a few days ago I recieved a copy of my thyroid blood work in the mail...it is all over the place to high to low and a note on the blood work says increase meds...needless to say I am furious and believe that this is the reason I lost my baby...The nurse called and said everything looked great but that is not the case...I go to my appointment tomorrow and I need advice on how I should approach this subject...I am so angry I cannot think clearly enough to figure out a good way to figure out what went wrong other than screaming at them!! PLEASE HELP ME

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Tyla - posted on 08/10/2013

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Once I got to the appointment I kept my head...I talked it over with my doctor and he said he is not sure what happened with them telling me I did not need an increase over the phone because I did need to increase. He also said that he does believe that my thyroid is what caused the miscarriage as basically all of my levels were to high or to low. He is going to see me again in 6 weeks to check my post miscarriage levels...hoping to start trying to get pregnant again soon!!

Jodi - posted on 08/08/2013

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One in four pregnancies actually end in miscarriage. Many of these are earlier miscarriages, but miscarriage is common, even amongst the healthiest of women. Myself, I had two in a row, one at 13 weeks, the other at 6 weeks. More often than not, you are not going to know what went wrong. You don't know for sure that this is why you had the miscarriage.

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