I need advice on how to deal with my babys father

Kristin - posted on 08/03/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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okay so im new here.. i have a 2 year old little girl and me and her father are not together we have been split up for a year now he has a new girlfriend and they live together and have a 3 month old son together. when its time to get his daughter SHE texts me i have no comumication with him what so ever it all goes thur her and they are supose to her her every other weekend and she text me to make plans but the day before its time to get her she text me and says they cant make it, my daughters father has to work late or has to work on saturday. i understand that when you have to work you have to work, but what i dont get is why he didnt know that before they made plans to get the baby. im sure he gets his schdule a week in advace. also later that weekend i checked facebook and seen that they were going to take there son to the river and i dont understand why they left lauren (my daughter) out he is her father too that leads me to believe he didint have to wrok and they just didnt want to get her and this is just one of a few things but stuff like this happends all the time and i need to know how i can fix it. i want to do whats best for lauren so bad but i also want her to have a relationhip with her dad. i dont know what to do but i do know i need to proteced lauren and do whats best for her i just need some aadvice....

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Lacye - posted on 08/03/2012

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You are right, it's not her place. My husband used to do this to me and his ex. I would be the go between for the two of them and I hated every minute of it because I was always in the middle of their argument. They aren't married. She needs to take a couple steps back. It's great that she wants to be in your daughter's life but most of the conversation about your daughter should be between you and her father.

As for talking to him, just tell him up front that you are not trying to be confrontational. You just want to talk to him about how yall can make it easier for him to see yall's daughter. He has to work with you on this. If he won't, then I'm not sure what to tell you.

I wish you good luck on this because I know how important for the father to be in a child's life.

Kristin - posted on 08/03/2012

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okay its the talking to him part im having a hard time with i dont want it to com off the wroge way i guess i dont know what to say or how to start the conversations bc everytime i talk to them im talking to her about everything and im just not so sure if its her place i under stand that he is with her and she going to have a part laurens life but i dont think it should be this much right now they are not married and i think the communication should go thur me and him i just dont know how to make that happen.

Lacye - posted on 08/03/2012

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If it is something that is constantly happening, you need to talk to him about it. Not his girlfriend. He is a coward for letting his girlfriend handle his parenting duties. It's not fair to you, your child, or the girlfriend.

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