Lynn - posted on 10/22/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
I need advice for my 13 year old son. He will not do anything requiring more effort than the bare minimum. He will not do his homework and will lie to us about not having any. When we talk to the teachers and get his assignments for him we have to sit him down at the table and not let him leave until it is done. He can do it and gets good grades on the stuff he turns in but it is a battle every day. If it is a weekend assignment he will literally sit there the entire weekend and stare at a blank piece of paper with us telling him every so often to start working on it. He has even gone so far as to make up ‘easier’ assignments which he will do in front of us but then is still failing because he can’t turn in work that was not assigned. This goes for everything. If he can get away with not taking a shower, brushing his teeth, anything requiring effort he will. We still have to remind him to put on socks in the morning, tie his shoes. I am feeling like he is still a toddler requiring constant vigilant attention to every aspect of his life. He is not mentally deficient or possessing any kind of learning disability unless perpetual laziness is one. How can I motivate him to start taking care of himself?