I need advice with girls and their drama? and their mothers?

Lisa - posted on 06/07/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I need help with a situation I am going through with my 9 year old daughter. We live in a condo and it is only my daughter and another girl 8. The mother and I became friends she is 28 I am 49, yes a older mom of three adult boys. We were doing great the mother shared concerns she has had with her daughter and the kids at school and different activities not liking her, and if my daughter can just be patient. Well my daughter is very lay back but I noticed my daughter always telling her stop, don't do that, then one day they were playing , the girls came down and my daughter had been bit by the girl and instead of the mother dealing with it upstairs she sent them down to me, I did not know what to say so just brushed off. We now are doing girl scouts together and it is affecting my daughter and myself, the mother has gone to troop leader and said our daughters fight all the time, I see the troop mother acting different towards us, I have asked the troop mother to meet me one day and talk. I have never gone through this and it's very hard for me. Any advice?

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Lisa - posted on 06/08/2012

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I agree with you, I am going to talk to troop mom, but I will not mention the other mother, it will be hard. It is hard as they are the two only children in the building, I use to live in a apartment with a bunch of kids boys and girls different ages and never had any problem. What I have done is talk to another mother at the school and we are going to start playdates and doing things in the summer, my daughter is already in a summer camp program and this other girl is not. I am going to try my best to start to distance. Thank you so much for your advise.

Amy - posted on 06/07/2012

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When you speak to the troop leader I wouldn't even mention this other mother or daughter. Address your concerns over how your daughter is being treated differently then the other girls, or turn it into a conversation about how you would like to be more involved. Honestly if you bring up this situation with the other mom you are no different then the other mom.

I know it will be difficult but I would start putting some distance between you and this other mom and get your daughter involved in other activities where she doesn't have to be with this girl. If your daughter doesn't like playing with this girl and is constantly getting hurt, or trying to steer this girl away from trouble it's probably a toxic friendship for her and would be best if you helped her get away from it rather then keep forcing it upon her.

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