I need advise abusive relationship please help

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I'm in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship every time I try to leave he says he won't let me take my daughter or threatons me with taking her from me. Its getting bad he's beating me up once a week starting fights he talked me into quiting my job while I was pregnant and recently when I started working again. I'm looking for a job but its hard so I have no income will they take her from me since I have no income she gets everything she needs and an overflow of toys and clothes. I'm really need help what are my rights in this situation please

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Michelle - posted on 04/02/2016

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Like the other ladies have said, find a women's shelter to go to. They will have the resources to help you with everything.

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Dove - posted on 04/03/2016

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That is recent enough... leave now. Michelle is right... what happens to your daughter when (not if, when) he kills you? This isn't a guy that occasionally loses his cool and slaps you (even though that is also 100% wrong). You said he beats you WEEKLY.... get out now before your daughter is permanently scarred and/or you end up dead. Please.

Michelle - posted on 04/03/2016

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The women's shelters can help with everything!
Stop making excuses not to leave. He is abusing you, get out for the sake of your child, if not for yourself.
Just think that if he kills you, he will have your child, do you want that? Don't think it's not a possibility.

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She's only 8 months old but she notices it already when it happens in front of her last night was the most recent my face isn't bruised its a little swollen and a balled spot were he pulled my hair out I don't bruise as easy on my face as I do my arms. What kind of help do these shelters provide? I don't really have a house I could go to with my daughter

Brittany - posted on 04/02/2016

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I myself left a abusive relationship almost three years ago , but I couldn't get myself to leave until the day he did it in front of our 2 year old, and I could see the hurt on my child's face. It took my best friend literally dragging me to a help shelter, They made me feel accepted and helped me realize what danger I was putting myself and my Son in. As soon as he does it next find a way to go to shelter , its sad but the fresher the wound the easier the process of proving abuse. I don't know about in your state , but in mine because we were not married he had no legal rights to the child , unless parentage was established. Which is you admitting he is the father. If you choose not to admit it then he will have to pay and file to get a dna test to establish any rights he may have, this will buy you time to figure out what you can do. I didn't have a job either since i was in college, not a big deal. it doesn't make a difference. File for child support and it was equal out your income. you will feel guilty for leaving, but remember its not your fault and believe me you are saving your child (emotionally and mentally) by leaving. good luck! Stay strong

Sarah - posted on 04/02/2016

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Find your local women's crisis shelter and call them to help set up a plan. You will not get in trouble for taking your daughter with you initially. However, if he never harmed her, you may end up sharing custody. Worry about that later. Get out now, you can file fro divorce and get government assistance until you get back on your feet.

Dove - posted on 04/02/2016

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http://www.circleofmoms.com/welcome-circ...

Without police reports it may be hard to prove the abuse, but you need to take your daughter and get out... and worry about the rest later. Look up Legal Aid in your area... or you can also call your local DHS (Department of Human Services... some states have a slightly different name for it) and ask them to point you in the direction of resources. You may qualify for various temporary assistance. Look for a local women's shelter as well.

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No I haven't involved the police can he keep her from me since I have no job I'm trying to find a lawyer online to give me free legal advice I have to have her with me I'm afraid he will do same to her when she gets older

Dove - posted on 04/02/2016

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Have you tried involving the police and pressing charges against him?

There are links to resources pinned at the top of the home page. You NEED to get out and you NEED to take your child w/ you. You and your daughter both have the right to be safe. He has no right to lay a hand on you... ever.

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