Tawni - posted on 08/23/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )
I'm sorry, I'm on the wrong site, but hear me out.
First off, before I get pinned as a teenage mother, I want to clear this up, I'm not a mother, I'm a sister.
I just turned 16, and my 7 year old sister refuses to listen to me or our parents.
I'm starting to think my mother is in denial that her precious baby girl is basically a 'spoiled brat' and I didn't know where else to go. My father is just as baffled as I am.
She refuses to cooperate, and the only way to get her to do anything is bribe her.
When she does something wrong or isn't listening, my mother just tells her how beautiful and smart she is, and then my sister gets all happy and cooperates. But she's just taking advantage of all three of us now and my mother is completely blind to it.
I tried to tell my parents a long time ago that she was being spoiled, but neither one of them believed me. My father recently realized it, about 2-3 months ago, and my mother is still somewhere in dreamland.
I just had a problem with my sister today, and after a horrible fight, I decided to take matters into my own hands and found this site.
The problem today went something like this.
My sister was just outside, playing with the hose in her bathing suit. It's starting to get cold and my father told her to come into the house and dry off. (My mother is at work.) She ignored him. He said, "Come inside." and her reply was, "No. I'm playing." and she closed the door on him and went to play. I'm not even shocked at her behavior anymore.
He told me to get her, and I did. I opened the door, told her to come inside and dry off. She told me to "Go away." and said, "This is none of your business." I said she had 3 seconds to get into the house. She screamed at me to "shut up." I counted to three and she just ignored me. So, I walked over, grabbed her by the arm, and literally had to drag her into the house as she screamed bloody murder at me.
I told her to go upstairs, take off the bathing suit, and shower. She said no and tried to go outside again. Then I warned her that if she tried to go outside again, I would ground her. (My mother never grounds her. Ever. I, for one, was never a problem child, since I was naturally quiet and obeyed immediately. I have gotten grounded 3 times in my life for small issues, such as continuously closing my bedroom door when I was 9 instead of leaving it open. For that one, I got no TV for a day. My sister, who does things 10x worse than I have ever done, (Hitting me AND my parents, screaming, never doing anything she is told, etc.) never gets punished. At most, she'd get yelled at for a few seconds, then she'd burst into tears and receive a bunch of hugs.) Back to the story. I told her I'd ground her. She told me I'm not allowed to do that. I am allowed to ground her. She refuses to accept that fact. She doesn't respect my authority as her older sister. She doesn't respect the fact that I'm in charge when our parents aren't home and wreaks havoc, then tells our parents I yelled at her, and I get told that I need to be nicer to her.
I told her I would still ground her because she knows very well I can. Then I went to the living room and she followed me, stomping around and screaming at me. I told her to go to the bathroom and take a shower. 5 minutes later, I found her pouring water on her head at the sink, basically flooding the bathroom. When I turned the water off, she screamed at me to get out the bathroom, completely ignoring the fact that she flooded it. I said no and told her to take off her swimsuit 'cause it was dripping everywhere, and get in the shower. She said she didn't need to because it was 'water proof.' I told her to take it off because the ground isn't 'water proof' and she said no and stood there, grinning at me. I didn't know what to do at this point. I told her to get in the shower again, and she said she wanted to wear her swimsuit around the house. At this point, my father came in, told her to take it off 5-6 times, and when she told both of us to go away and that she wouldn't listen, he pulled it off of her, handed it to me, and told her to get in the shower. She finally did, but threw a whole fit and hit me a few times in the shoulder.
Then she threw a whole tantrum about how she didn't want to shower.
She finally showered and is sitting in our room, watching TV.
I'm at the end of my rope here. I don't know what to do with this kid. How do I make her stop acting like a, pardon my language, spoiled piece of shit? I'm sick of it. She's a good girl at heart, and I love her, but this has got to stop.