Diane - posted on 08/30/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have 2 girls, 1 is 16 and doing very well in school and otherwise. I have an 18 year old who has been a rebellious hellion since birth. She cut classes in HS, almost flunked out, we had to move her to a "closed" campus, she has risky behavior, compulsively lies. I gave her a nice Honda 2 years ago and she totalled it running into a tree, she had another car we tried with her that she trashed. she trashed her bedroom this May and moved in with her boyfriend and transient friend in their parents barn. Now she is back, living in our camper and pregnant. When she moved out, I talked to her many times about birth control but she told me "not to worry about it". She going to Community College for a couple weeks so hope that lasts, we are paying for everything for her and running everywhere for her. She won't talk to me. We fight constantly, she is impossible to talk with. she has no cell phone anymore as she lost that. Her father takes her to college and drops her off. She has been in and out of mental health counseling for years, that has not seemed to help. I messaged her yesterday that if she is willing to be honest with me, I want to help her, we just cannot have a relationship if shes not going to be honest with me. She is pretty verbally abusive to her sister and me and her sister hates her. We know she must have some type of mental illness but she won't address that. Last night, she put mean stuff on FB and messaged me that she doesn't want to have anything to do with me, that she is hurting and angry. I blocked her from FB because I cannot handle seeing it.Please help me, are we doomed? im getting in individual counseling soon. My husband and I basically don't talk too much but he's trying to keep eveybody together. It's very stressful for him too. any positive ideas or thoughts would help. Im extremely depressed. We have a nice home, but this has been destroying us for years.