I NEED Help !!!!

Kimmie - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 9 Year Old Son Will Not Listen to me at all.. Well I guess I mean Sure he Listens sometimes its more like he is testing my limits ALL the time, He has lost all his Tv time, and Playstation,for now to see if that is going to help, but i think its making things worse, He was allowed 1 Hr of Tv time today and when i said his time was Up he Went Nuts crying and throwing a Fit...What can i do , or what am i doing wrong????

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Kristen - posted on 03/29/2012

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He is definitely playing you. He is also too old to be having those fits, I would suggest letting him know before allowing him to watch t.v. that when you say time is up, its up and if a fit starts up that the t.v. time will be gone until he learns to act like a nine year old not a two year old. After all he doesn't have to watch t.v he wont be missing anything. Also maybe try an earlier bed time for the tantrums if he wants to act like a small child then he can be treated as such.

Liz - posted on 03/29/2012

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Yup, just be consistent, and stick to your guns. If allowing him to have limited time back isn't working, then cut him off again until you think he's ready to try again. Keep it up until he gets it. Set a timer for 1 hour - that way when it goes off, there should be less of a struggle. Kids know they can test their parents, because they know how to push ALL of our buttons - they live with us, they know our strengths and weaknesses. In my house, I do not tolerate tantrums. For example, if you throw a fit about it being time to pick up toys, then you won't play with toys later (call it harsh, but it works!) The main thing is that we as parents need to stick to our guns. If we aren't prepared to follow through on something we say, then we shouldn't say it.

Tabitha - posted on 03/29/2012

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Sounds like he's got your number and knows how to use it! He's playing you. He obviously knows how to behave when he's away from you. Time for a reality check for him! The key is following thru, I promise. Of course, he won't be perfect, they never are. But he'll learn how to respect you and what you say. Thinks at home will be calmer after he's learned where you draw the line and has faced consequences after he's crossed it.

Kimmie - posted on 03/29/2012

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Yes He has lost his Tv time but i gradually wanted to give it back and thought by giving him One hour of time today id see how he got along....but it didn't go well....I explained before the Tv come on that he had one Hour and that was it he said he understood ...told him " ok buddy Times up " he starts crying and yelling that its not fair....His Tv is in my bedroom closet along with the PS2 , He also knows that 3 strikes Is Out...Ex "bugging for something continuously will get you nothing," Its just getting Hard , All his friends parents keep telling me that he is such a good kid, well mannered, waits his turn , speaks only when spoken to, very Nice child to have play with there Children.....But he IS NOT like that with me, sure i know i am his Mom and kids do that with Us but .....

Tabitha - posted on 03/29/2012

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If he has lost all Tv and playstation time, why was he allowed an hour today? You need to make sure you're following thru with everything you say. Otherwise, he'll just keep it up.



Unplug the TV, lock up the playstation and find some chores for him to do. Follow thru, he'll probably throw another fit but he'll get over it. Eventually, he'll learn that when Mama says something, she damn well means it! When my boys get outa line, I just find some house work or yard work for them to do. Especially if they've already lost extras. They learned early on that they better buck up and do it or they'll just be busy with more chores for a while!!

Amanda - posted on 03/29/2012

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First you said your son lost all tv time and then said he was allowed one hour today.... Which is it? You need to be consistant with a child, when you punish a child you STICK TO IT. If my 9 year old threw a fit over TV, he would go to bed for the rest of the night. Tomorrow he can try agian.

Kimmie - posted on 03/29/2012

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All Im trying to do is make him realise that I AM BOSS by not allowing the TV and the games, thats really all i can take away from him , sure there is his cars and toys and stuff but he dont even wanna play with them...so taking them is usless.....When i start to slowly give the Tv and stuff back its like im starting all over again...

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