Bianca - posted on 01/09/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
I have a 2 year old son of my own and a 2 year old step son. My son is so advanced for his age, amd knows a lot of things and when he goes to time out, we always ask him why he was in time out, he will tell us why, and of course we end it with a hug and an I love you. My step son on the other hand is having tons of problems, including not being able to answer us. We do the same thing to him and at first he would just repeat us when we said "why were you in time out" he would just say "time out" we finally got him out of that habit, but now its a whole different thing. Now, he won't answer us at all, we will literally tell him over and over for about five minutes, telling him why he was in time out, then when we get done telling him numerous times we will ask him why and he still won't answer us. He just recently started talking well. Before we could never understand him, its like he had his own language and I had to really listen to what he was trying to say. Now he talks normal, but not as much as he should be at this age. We have even made him repeat us when we tell him why he's in timeout so we know he can say these things. He Will be 3 in May, his mother just recently started letting him feed himself. When I asked her about it she said "um no he's only 2" I've seen my own child pretend like he doesn't understand what we're saying maybe 3 times in his life. My step son constantly acts like he doesn't know what we're saying, regardless of the situation. He will drink a whole sippy cup of juice in two minutes. Literally will not put it down until its empty then he wants more. When we asked him a couple weeks ago where he got his bobo, he said "mamas beer" he screams when its time to take a bath, and makes himself throw up and cries when its time for bed, he thought he was going to get in trouble for breaking a toy one time and ran to the closet crying and closed himself in there, he spilt cereal one morning and freaked out screaming and crying so much he could barely breath saying "I clean up" as he was shoveling the cereal in his mouth off the chair with his hands eating so fast he wasn't even chewing it before he swallowed it. Like I said my son is 2 and Will be 3 in April (a month before my step son will turn 3) but my son was born 8 weeks early and is still SO much more advanced than my step son. To me this behavior IS NOT NORMAL, but I was looking for some other opinions. For the past year he has came over covered in bruises, so much that when we brought him to the doctor one time without her knowing the Doctor and nurse both asked us about the bruises and advised us to call CPS. We have 3 times. The first 2 times they ruled it out, even thought we had 8 of her friends telling us she didn't deserve him, ect. And a doctor! The 3rd time the case worker called me to come evaluate him while we had him and she said about an hour. She never showed up, she called me a week later and told me she couldn't catch baby mama at home and that there was a very high tech security system on her porch with cameras everywhere outside. Its been a month since she told me that, haven't seen her and haven't heard from her, AND she lied about the cameras and security system and cameras. Theres absolutely no cameras outside that house or on the porch and she even read me her address and asked if it was correct so I know she wasn't going to the wrong house. I'm just worried, his mother refuses to get him tested or checked about him not understanding or comprehending what anybody says, even though his doctor told her a year ago to bring him to Houston because he thinks he could be borderline autistic. She still hasn't done it because she thinks the doctors crazy and he's fine, she even switched doctors. She didn't bring him to the dentist till he was 2 when he's supposed to start going at 6 months old. I just don't know what to do or what to think about the situation! Am I wrong? Please help!