Nicole - posted on 12/11/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am not with the baby father of my unborn baby girl . I am going to share my story so you guys can get a better understanding . I was "seeing " this guy who is now the baby father of my unborn child . Before the pregnancy he knew I wasn't working and I was dealing with other personal issues in life hence I wasn't planning to get pregnant . We were having unprotected sex and he knew I had a chance of getting pregnant and he said that he would help me no matter what . I got pregnant in the ending week of May and found out around June . I was scared to tell my mother because I was thinking the worst .... What if she kicks me out ? And I was still in shock and nervous on how I was going to tell her .... Before I got pregnant I told the baby daddy I am against abortion so if I do end up pregnant im not getting rid of it . I chose to use my heart instead of seeing the fact that he was irresponsible and continues to be . When he found out I asked him if my mom does kick me out where was I going to go ? He said oh idk because my father doesn't know you're pregnant and he was scared to tell him ...so basically if she would have I would have been out in the streets pregnant by him i was saying to my self . When I was 9 weeks he stopped working and wasn't working till 3 months later . In the begining I was under a lot of stress my self with my own personal issues and he just kept adding on to it more by wanting to argue with me . Which could have made me at any time have a misscarage . So because of him doing that I don't think he truly cares bout her cause if he did he wouldn't make me talk so much .... He only gives me 200-300 every two weeks , sometimes I have to wait 3 nd some days or 4 and any one as a mom on here knows that 200-300 is nothing every two weeks cause it gets used on food , maternity clothing and other things .... He still complains bout giving meoney and is always late ... So I don't want to take his money anymore . It's only been working for 4 months and I'm already 7 months pregnant , this is not how I want to spend my pregnancy .... As a consequence , I don't think it's fair that when she's here he gets to decide on what he wants to do with her . He's making me take a paternity test which makes me think he doubts that's his child so it's like why should o have you around fully when shes here ? I See how irresponsible he has been and continues to be threw out the months I have left and I just want to take full custody of her and I really don't want to be bothered after I give birth with his bs . I am not taking away his rights to see her I just want him to have visitation hours and know he won't be able to take her with till she gets older and decides what she wants to do ... As well I have a boyfriend who is willing to do a better job than him and is helping me more so I really don't need him , but when his child is born he can come see her and do his role of a father as I'm going to be doing mine . He smokes and drinks as well and I just feel she would be more fit to be with me because although I don't work my mother is supportive and so Is my boyfriend .... I feel he is unfit because he isn't finacially stable enough and knows what to do with a baby so I don't want her with him because of that .... I suffer from traumatic stress disorder and he knows it and so cause I see he's causing me all this hurt and stress willing knowing my condition , I don't find it fair at all to give him what he wants when I am more mature than him and personally think that he's unfit ....