I need help

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So questions. My 5 year old daughter was basically a golden child. She never screamed, would play quietly by herself while I would clean up. (In the same room, of course) but since my son was born he is a handful. He's very intelligent and a very fast learner but recently he has hit 15 months and he now will scream all day long, happy, sad, angry or just plain trying to talk. But when get plays or gets upset he will slap his face and head. It's very overwhelming. On top of all his lashing out and frustration he has started to shove his fingers down his throat whenever he wants attention or he is angry. Any advice? I'm a stay at home single mother. I split my attention as evenly as I can. But if I don't give him every second of my attention..he loses it. HELP

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Amanda - posted on 01/16/2015

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Oh thank you so much! I am so exhausted and this has just helped me so much. I really appreciate it. He has chronic bronchitis so we are in and out of so toes offices and hospitals every other month. So he is so used to a lot of attention. My in laws are great and so sweet but they are very bad with spoiling the children. It has been difficult. They want to help but I've had to cut back on how much time they have because they will hold him all day and hand fees him, let him throw breakable objects...he gets away with everything. They used to play bite and so he went through a biting phase...which I know is normal but it's hard. I love my not, he is so sweet and kind but when your tired all the time you tend to burn your brain out and can't think
Of different ways to react. Again, thank you so incredibly much! This is extremely helpful!

Sarah - posted on 01/16/2015

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The fingers down his throat is not that uncommon. He does it because you react, so ignore it. The more your try to soothe or calm him when he acts out, the more he will do it to get your attention. Try to keep your face neutral and your tone calm and take his hands and say, "no fingers" or "No slapping" and walk away. Tell him you'll be ready to play, read, sing, or snuggle when he is done and leave him to have a fit.
It is scary, very scary, to watch your child hurt themself. Certainly, if you believe he is truly going to injure himself (like he is right by a hard floor or sharp edge), you will have to restrain him. Pick him up from behind and bear hug him, no eye contact. Carry him to a spot where he is not likely to hurt himself, like his crib or a playpen. Let the fit burn out. You need to protect him but not teach him that this his how he can get your attention. The noisiness may just be his style. As exhausting as it is to listen too, it won't hurt him to be loud. I'd deal with the slapping and gagging first. Hang in there!

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