i need help/advice from a pro-spanking mom

Pascal - posted on 03/17/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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agasin !with permission of ny parents I try to figure things out.If my behaviour is bad,or if my schooll complains about for example not doing my best, my atitdu,i am still getting a spanking, just like my younger brothers..Normally i deserve a punishment for 100%,.My body is just growing,Anywy,I hate the moment,standing beside my parents in my briefs.That is so embrassing.The spanking itself is awful,but for me it is embrassing that i am normally, sent to bed,immidiatly afterwards.For a while i feel like I am 10. i am 15, from europa.Spanking is a selden given punishment in my country.I will try to be honest,I made sometimes a mess.I get it over the knee.Please help me.

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Raye - posted on 03/17/2015

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I got spankings (with pants down) when I was a teenager. My mom didn't spank for everything, but she did when we really deserved it. The humiliation is part of the punishment. If you don't want spankings, then act appropriately. If you act like a child and misbehave, then your parents are going to treat you like a child. You're getting closer to being an adult, so you should act like an adult and be responsible.

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Dove - posted on 03/17/2015

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You were a teenager... I am not anti-spanking (don't do it anymore, but I'm not fully against it), but I HAVE teenagers... and if I ever felt the 'need' to spank them... I would be the one that was the failure... not them. At 13, my daughter hasn't been spanked in YEARS... It is not an appropriate punishment for ANY teenager...

Raye - posted on 03/17/2015

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Dove, I'm not trying to get into a big pro vs anti spanking debate... but I do want to say that it was our actions as kids that prompted the move from regular spankings to pants down. We would pad our pants with tissues and laugh at my mom, saying that it didn't hurt anymore when she spanked us. So that's when it went to the pants down... to remove the padding we'd added. It wasn't meant to be humiliating (although it was embarrassing).

Now, I can't say if I would ever do that to my child, because I don't have kids of my own, but I am not against spanking with reason. I have step-kids (7 and 10), and my husband deals out most punishment. So far, I have only taken things away that they're fighting over. He does spank sometimes, when they are being particularly mouthy and defiant. He has never spanked pants down, though.

Dove - posted on 03/17/2015

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And yeah... I don't know what you are doing to GET this punishment... If it's because you aren't doing your best or you are having bad attitude... DO your best and knock off the attitude. If you are feeling emotional and hormonal to the point that attitude WILL come out... excuse yourself to your bedroom to calm yourself down.

Dove - posted on 03/17/2015

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Spanking in that matter is emotional and sexual abuse. I don't know what sort of resources you have available in your area, but if talking to your parents about getting a different consequence does not change anything... please report this. NO CHILD should be forced down to their underwear for a spanking and NO TEENAGER should still be getting a spanking.

Christine - posted on 03/17/2015

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While you may (and should) face consequences that naturally result from your actions, the humiliation of pants down as punishment is not necessary for any human being regardless of age. Exposure of that nature is not a necessary consequence and is degrading in my honest opinion and experience. Without further understanding of your culture, it is hard for me to recommend alternative forms of discipline for your parents. You may spend some time looking at why you choose to misbehave and cross boundaries that lead to discipline and work on your actions and choices. You are accountable for your actions, and your parents are responsible for disciplining you in response to your actions and behavior. But, this does not need to include humiliation or embarrassment as punishment can be done with the dignity of human beings preserved. One thing you might do, if it's acceptable, is talk to your parents to let them know how the pants down spankings make you uncomfortable at your age and look for age appropriate consequences that don't violate your right to privacy and modesty. I hope it helps!

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