I need help and advice on custody issues of my little girl. I live in SC & her father lives in NC. He was into drinking, wouldn't work, didn't do anything but sleep all day while I worked & go out and party all night. We separated and I moved to SC & got married to an old high school sweet heart. He sent me nasty emails when we separated and basically told me to have fun taking care of the child he wouldn't be in our lives. Six months after I moved to SC he filed for custody. We went through the mediation process. He had moved in with his mom in Charlotte and she was getting onto him about getting custody of the baby. In mediation since she was little and not in school we worked out for him to have joint custody. He would get her Monday night and I would get her back Thursday night. He has her 3 nights a week and I have her 4 nights a week. She has a bad speech problem and I have had her in a public school on Mondays to work on her speech. Now is the time for 4 year old kindergaten and her father refuses to let me enroll her into 4k. I don't have much time to wait because the registration ends next week. What can I do he only screams at me over the phone telling me he is going to enroll her into school and hangs up

Cheryl - posted on 02/03/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I live in SC & her father lives in NC. He was into drinking, wouldn't work, didn't do anything but sleep all day while I worked & go out and party all night. We separated and I moved to SC & got married to an old high school sweet heart. He sent me nasty emails when we separated and basically told me to have fun taking care of the child he wouldn't be in our lives. Six months after I moved to SC he filed for custody. We went through the mediation process. He had moved in with his mom in Charlotte and she was getting onto him about getting custody of the baby. In mediation since she was little and not in school we worked out for him to have joint custody. He would get her Monday night and I would get her back Thursday night. He has her 3 nights a week and I have her 4 nights a week. She has a bad speech problem and I have had her in a public school on Mondays to work on her speech. Now is the time for 4 year old kindergaten and her father refuses to let me enroll her into 4k. I don't have much time to wait because the registration ends next week. What can I do he only screams at me over the phone telling me he is going to enroll her into school and hangs up

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Crystal - posted on 02/03/2013

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It is hard when the other parent doesn't seem to be interested in what is best for the child. It seems he is trying to have a power battle. Since she is to be starting school, the first thing that needs to happen is a new arrangement to accommodate school. He should now get her on the weekends and any school holidays since you leave close but not close enough for him to drive her to school, unless you choose the other way around where he is responsible for her schooling decisions. Which ever way you work it she needs to have consistency, especially when she is working on her speech. If she has speech Apraxia, like my son, it can be extra tough on her and take a lot of work. She can't be enrolled in two schools at the same time. If he will not cooperate to resolve this, you might have to go back to court for a resolution. Some schools will let you get on a waiting list or let you enroll later on if there is room. If she misses the window she is young enough that she can start Kindergarten next year. In that case I suggest finding a good speech therapist that can work with her a few days out of the week. Good luck.

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