I need help for a friend ASAP

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My best friend was just diagnosed with breast cancer 4 months ago, her husband just got laid off today from the job he has had for 8 years (to complicate this he only has a high school education & it was a good position he would have never gotten if he hadn't worked his way up in the company), she is already having to file for bankruptcy, she is about to lose her home because it is being foreclosed on due to her APR adjusting to over 9%, her husbands car just got totaled today on the way to pick up his stuff from the job he lost, and to boot she will not be able to afford COBRA health insurance to cover the radiation treatments that she is going to need, as well as all the other continued care she will need due to the cancer.

This is not made up, this is a sincere attempt to get my friend the help she so desperately needs right now. She is so overwhelmed. I know this sounds too sad to be true, but it isn't, it is what is what she is facing today. Did I mention she is only 33 & has two little boys ages 1 & 2?
So much has happened to her in the last few months that I will make any call I have to or bang on any doors to find her help.

We live in the Los Angeles, California area. If anyone knows someone who can help, please e-mail me here or leave your contacts on this page for me.

I am considering calling some local news stations, but I'm sure the response would be luke warm. Any advice or suggestions on how I can help my friend?

Many thanks in advance to everyone.

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Maria - posted on 02/14/2010

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California also has a Medicaid program, so she could look into that. I'm not sure what the restrictions are to qualify, but it's worth a shot.

Banannine - posted on 02/13/2010

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wait a sec..... first of all coverage is very very important. If he got laid off he is entitled to unemployment insurance. And if he receives unemployment insurance he is entitled to the government supplement of 65% of cobra. The cobra provider must send you information about that and they will need to provide proof of coverage. Im assuming you are in Cali.....
If you have any questions about that send me and email..... hopefully that helps a little.
Good luck!

Roxanne - posted on 02/13/2010

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You could have a benefit for her. Make flyers and put a brief description of what her and her family are going through.A picture of the family, Choose and time, date and place and sell bbq plates at a reasonable price it doenst take that much to put in compared to what you can get out of it.... Most people put chicken rice and beans and 2 pieces of bread and sell them for $7.00. My family has done it before for a cousin who had cancer and they earned over 3,500.00. Sold over 500 plates at $7.00... If not im sure you can look up somethings the goverment helps with...

Maria - posted on 02/13/2010

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She could check with a hospital affiliated with a religious institution (i.e., a Catholic hospital). They often have "patient assistance" programs that can help her with her medical bills. I'm not sure about other private hospitals, but she really should check for these programs with any hospitals in her area, religion-based or not.

My husband and I have been jobless and poor for most of the last couple of years. He suffers from chronic pain and a mysterious autoimmune disorder, requiring a lot of MRIs, bone scans and other testing. Then I accidentally burned my hand in a can of hot bacon grease last summer and had to go to our local (Catholic) hospital's ER. We applied for something called the Bridge Program at this hospital, and were approved. One hundred percent of our medical bills were written off by them.

My husband gets the majority of his medical care through a Volunteers in Medicine clinic in our town, which charges (or not) based on a sliding scale, and refers him to doctors in the community who are willing to volunteer their services for the clinic's patients.

It looks like the only VIM clinic in California is in San Diego, but it's better than nothing: http://www.vim-sandiego.org/ They may also be able to refer your friend to other volunteer clinics in the area that are closer to or in LA. The service is slow, but it's something, and it's better than dying.

I'll be sending your friend the best wishes for her health and her family's security.

Melissa - posted on 02/12/2010

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Call MD Anderson in Houston. Also, call the Breast Cancer Center at Princeton Hospital

Kathi - posted on 02/12/2010

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I'm actually a mammographer in Mpls. There are programs which help patients out who don't have health insurance or have high deductibles. Have her check with the American Cancer Society, or her local breast clinic or with her MD to find out how to get started. Some of them you have to meet certain requirements, but its a start.

Loretta - posted on 02/12/2010

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god does not allow things to happen to you that if you trust in him he will bring you out my prayers are with them

Mary - posted on 02/12/2010

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Contact your local Department of Social Services and Human Resources. She and her children may qualify for medical benefits and other services they provide. They should have online applications too. You may find help through your local churches also.

Sandra - posted on 02/12/2010

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Hi Shelly,

Talk about a tough time! I was diagnosed with stage 4 non hodgkins lymphoma two years ago. In Australia, I was lucky because the government subsidised my chemo and I was only out of pocket a relatively small amount/which was sort of means tested and pushed for by my oncologist. I wanted to encourage your friend to also try complimentary therapies (look at the 11 natural strategies to kill cancer website) - i swear blind if i hadn't used alot of the strategies that the chemo alone wouldn't have done the job alone. I uses aloe vera juice 125ml daily, 150mg coq10 daily, 3g vitamin c, flaxseed, milk thistle 10000mg twice daily, a probiotic such as yakult and a good multi vitamin.

Would it be possible to get the local community behind her to fundraise - maybe help towards paying for her treatment.

Wish her all the very best.

Sandra

Dawn - posted on 02/12/2010

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Also, help your friend apply for all the aid she can get....this will be a long process, they don't make it easy, so maybe you could offer some of your time to help her with things when she is making phone calls or filling out forms online.

Dawn - posted on 02/12/2010

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COBRA may still have a reduction available where you only need to pay 33% of the premium rather than 110%. Have her look into this....her health insurance is one thing that they will be needing right now. I would try all the new stations you could....I have found people are generous with these situations. I will keep your friend in my prayers.

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I have already e-mailed and called two news stations as well as sent messages to the LA Times. Hopefully I will get some sort of response from them. I'm just going to keep calling and e-mailing until I find some help.

I hadn't even thought of contacting the cancer support groups, that is a really good idea.

Charlene - posted on 02/12/2010

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Have a silent auction, benefit dances, 50/50 draws etc.

Ask a local business to set up donation jars with her story on them.

I'm sure every little bit will help.

Also, contact ANY and ALL cancer support groups and ask them for ideas as to how to help your friend.

Katherine - posted on 02/12/2010

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Do fundraisers for her. I had a mutual friend in the same boat. Get as MUCH word of mouth out as you can. Papers, friends etc...Do it all.

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