I need help! Going crazy here...

Amie - posted on 08/21/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Ok so let me start at the beginning... I have 2 beautiful daughters that are now 3 and 5. I had a perfect baby boy in January 2015. Our family was complete. My girls came from a previous marriage, and my new husband and I wanted to have a child together. I desperately wanted a boy. He was born perfectly healthy and never had any medical issues. On May 13, 2015, my husband came home from a class and found baby boy passed away. I was home the entire time!! He was taking his nap and I had began to fix a bottle for him. My husband came running out of the bedroom with him and I instantly started CPR. I continued until first responders got there. They tried for over an hour, but my baby was gone. Baby boy passed away from SIDS. Our hearts were shattered. We decided that we wanted to have another baby. I felt like I should still be breastfeeding and caring for a baby. It's very difficult to explain. We absolutely know that we will never be able to "replace" him. There will never be another Torin. Anyway, I had my tubes tied when I had Torin. He completed our family. I have seen fertility doctors and they told me that I am a good candidate for a reversal. The catch is that it will cost us $5000 out of pocket up front. We do not have that kind of money. We are trying to move out of our house as it is. Anyway, I have been praying nonstop for God to somehow let me have another child. My periods have always been reliable to the day. I am now a week late. I took 2 pregnancy tests this morning. One was faint positive and the other was negative. I don't know what to do. I don't really want to tell my husband until I know for sure. I don't want him to give his hopes up. Please help me. I pray that I am, but I am scared that I'm not.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/22/2016

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I am so sorry for you loss, I cannot imagine the pain you and your family have endured.

Tubal ligation is suppose to be a form of permanent birth control. If you are testing positive, it may not be a good thing. Getting your tubes tied means the Fallopian tubes no longer lead to the uterus, so many women can get an ectopic pregnancy which can be life threatening. I would call your doctor and get in to have an ultrasound and blood test asap. If all is well, IVF might be your best chance of pregnancy. There is absolutely no gaurantee that a reversal will work. Good luck love.

Michelle - posted on 08/22/2016

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First of all sorry for the loss of your son!!! I can't even begin to imagine how it feels!!! I think you should schedule an appointment with your doctor to get a blood test to be sure. Good luck I hope God has answered your prayers!!!!

Sarah - posted on 08/21/2016

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If you had your tube tides just over a year ago, the likelihood of you conceiving is pretty slim. Are you sure you followed the directions of the test exactly? Waiting too long to read the test can cause a false positive. Rather that put 5000K up to try the reversal, maybe consider tyring IVF. You can still have your eggs harvested, fertilized and implanted and your insurance may cover that treatment.

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Michelle - posted on 08/21/2016

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Stress can stop your periods so I would be going to the doctor and getting a blood test.
If you are reading the pregnancy tests after the specified time then it will show positive, make sure you are reading at the correct time. The chances of falling pregnant are very, very slim as a tubal ligation is a permanent birth control.

Amie - posted on 08/21/2016

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Oh yeah. It's not one of those things that you will ever get over or even be ok with. The only peace I have with it is that I KNOW I will get to see him and hold him and cuddle him some day...

Amie - posted on 08/21/2016

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I will look into it. Thank you. I took another test and it was positive as well.

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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I have never experienced it but my mother went through loosing two babies through a misscarriage and still birth. I think she had a lot of trouble getting through it because when she told me when I was 18 years old I would have had two more sisters--she still cried a lot over it. She is a strong woman but it was hard on her to loose those babies. To this day when the subject comes up she is very emotional.

Amie - posted on 08/21/2016

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Yes they understand that he is with Jesus and that he is watching a over us. My youngest daughter doesn't remember much, but my older daughter does. We talk about him a lot. He has been gone now for over a year and all of us have been going to couseling since he passed. We did not rush into this decision. We talked about it quite a bit. I realize that it is very difficult for people to understand who haven't had to experience it, but we have overwhelming support from our families, church, and support groups.

Ev - posted on 08/21/2016

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Have you guys even given yourselves time to heal from this sudden loss of your child? I think you need to concentrate on healing before trying for another child in reality. Your children also knew that a baby was in the house and especially the 5 year old. How did you tell them they lost their brother? Do they know at all? You really need to be seeking counseling to help you through all this. Your girls also need time to heal with the loss of their baby brother.

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