Stacie - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
I started a conversation about "crying it out" in the Toddler Moms group so if you've seen me there, don't be too offended, I just need more help.
I have a 3 year old that I have rocked to sleep from the very beginning. When he was 9mos old my husband forcefully convinced me to CIO with him at night. We did it for a while with some success, but then we'd go on vacation and have to start all over again time and time again, so we stopped. Then for a while my husband was able to read him a book and just lay him down and our son would just go to sleep on his own. That lasted for a while, but then also stopped working and then I just went back to rocking him to sleep. After the first go round at 9mos he stopped getting up in the middle of the night for the most part. My trouble with him was always how LONG it would take me to get him to BE asleep.
So now... I have an 8mos old. Of course I was rocking him to sleep. He was waking up in the night to eat still at 4mos and at that point I tried to start weening him from night feedings with no luck. I tried for almost two months and was just so tired that I just went back to feeding him when he woke up. Well... then he started waking up eating... and staying awake for several hours at a time. We have a pretty structured day and I keep him on a pretty regular schedule so it wasn't like he was not getting his naps or getting too much naps.
Four months later now and I'm still battling him. A couple weeks ago I gave in to my husband again and we tried to CIO. It did not work. I went one full week and only ONE time did I enter the room before he stopped crying. At the end of that week the crying was only getting worse not better. Not to mention that I still rock my 3yo to sleep (that is just our special snuggle time). I felt sick when I thought about the comparision. So I stopped.
NOW, I have trouble getting him to stay asleep - a problem I NEVER had before and he is waking up and staying up more than ever. He has been teething, he has been sick - really sick, but I think we're about over the sickness now. And I NEED HELP! I am so tired and cranky that I'm getting to where I don't even want to be around myself so I can only imagine how my husband and children feel.
What I want to know.... What works and I need specifics. I know there are books out there, but please ladies - I am so sleep deprived that I can barely get through Good Night Moon, much less a long winded book about sleep. When I talked about it before moms were mildly helpful saying that "it's the way to go", "it worked for us", yeah yeah I know it works for people that's why they recommend it. I don't need to know WHY I should do it I need to know HOW I should do it. I undestand that every child and every parent is different - but I'm so desperate right now, it's pathetic.
Also... maybe you didn't CIO with your little ones, maybe you tried something else that really worked, I'd like to hear about that too. ANYTHING and EVERYTHING is welcome advice at this point.