i need help my 5 year old wount stay in school she crys and makes up that she feel sick so she can stay home i dont know what to do.

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Margareta - posted on 02/04/2013

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Let her take a picture of you with her :) always smile and look confident as you drop her off and always follow through with what you tell her. You can give her a watch with out a battery and set it to the time that you come to get her and she can look at the clock in class to see how close it's getting to the time you will be there. Make friends with some moms of the children in her class so you can have playdates with them and she can get to know her class mates after school as well as on weekends. Help her make friends that will build her confidences. Good luck and stay strong for her sake:)

Amy - posted on 11/28/2012

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First of all stop letting her stay home when she feels sick. The only thing you are doing is teaching her that it works, and you just reinforce that behavior. My son is 6 1/2 and we have been dealing with the same behavior for 3 months, I tell him that if he still doesn't feel good when he gets to school to go see the nurse and if she thinks he's too sick to be at school I'll pick him up. I know for a fact that my son won't go, if you think your daughter would then give the nurse the heads up that she is having some issues with school.



If you haven't already reached out to the teacher do so ASAP! Find out what's going on, if she's fine when she's there, if she seems to be withdrawn or having problems with a classmate the teacher may know. I unfortunately didn't get anywhere with my sons teacher so I contacted the school psychologist. She gave us some things to try at home so he wouldn't spend every morning crying, she also spoke to him. He just kept telling everyone the day was too long.



The ideas that the school psychologist gave us didn't work so I went to my sons pediatrician. I made an appointment for a consult without my son being present. He actually referred me to some child psychologists who may have some ideas for us, because we've been dealing with this for 3+ months, for my son it appears to be a separation anxiety issue. I know how hard it is to see your child upset, I have put my son on the bus many times while he's crying and it breaks my heart but I know the first time I give in it's going to be a huge disservice for him.

Kathy - posted on 11/28/2012

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Try talking to your daughter she could have a bully at school. Try to get her to open up about what happens at school maybe she is upset with the teacher because she thinks she was unfair or doesn't like her. Then talk to the teacher about your concerns and see if she is acting out in class. I hope this helps.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/28/2012

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PS...often teachers have days where they want the parents to come in and help in the classroom. See if your daughters teacher offers something like that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/28/2012

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Ok, I just responded to your other post, so I will just stick on this one. I was asking how old she is, but you told it on this thread. That can be completely normal at this age, but I would talk to her teacher and find out how she is doing in class. If she is getting along with everyone, and if she is excelling. Often kids are so attached to their parents that school is a huge uphevel in their lives. It takes time to adjust. Usually once they are in school they are fine.....barring anything unusual happening at school that is making her hate it.



It is nothing you are doing wrong. Just keep positive, and don't yell at her to go. Just make it as good of an experience as you can. Good luck.

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