i need help on tricks to get my 3yr old son to use the potty!! help nothin ive tried is working......

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Shanika - posted on 12/29/2011

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The dish washing liquid in the toilet sounds like a great idea because my two year old son loves bubbles. Thank You!!

Kim - posted on 12/30/2008

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I bought my daughter a book on toilet training when she was just over two, she loved the book and became interested in toilet training. By the time her lil brother was born (she was 2 yr 10months) she was a pro. At just under 3 and a half she is now out of night nappies! Take your time.... I believe when kids are made to feel horrible they will just wet their pants.... and have you ever heard of a kid at school still in nappies!?

Good luck and remember go with your gut!!! You know best!

Therese - posted on 12/30/2008

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we potty at the sametime even if you don't need to go him seeing you sitting on the potty while work along with dried fruit as a rewardfordoing this let him know he is doing a good job have him empty it into the big adluts's potty letting him feel that he is growing up reward him but let him know that this rewards are for only at potty time. at night use pull-ups for night time while he sleeps in conforter let him know since he his growing that this are his new underpants at night only, also i would wake him up in middle of the night to go to the potty so he learned that even getting up in the middle of the night to go is also away to learn control at night time always reward him with a good praise. good luck.

Justins_mom2004 - posted on 12/29/2008

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It look my son a long time too. He was 3. We took him to the store and let him pick out what BIG BOY underwear that he wanted and when he went we gave him a little piece of candy. It takes sometime. I know I was stressed from it but he will come around.

Shannon - posted on 12/29/2008

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go to grumpymoms.com under parenting, the potty training article completely worked! Good luck!

User - posted on 12/29/2008

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Get a calendar, involve him and pick a date on the calendar, draw a picture of underwear. Purchase them with him picking them out. Each day have him mark the day off with a red pen then count the days left. Continue marking each day off and talking about the day of wearing underwear. this method has helped others but you have to follow through and no turning back. (onlyat nap and night time).

He could decide to do it before the date picked.

Good luck.

User - posted on 12/29/2008

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My four year old wouldn't stop what he was doing to go to the toilet, so every time he would go poop in his diaper I would tell him that he was a big boy and that he would have to clean himself up. I put him in the tub with lukewarm water (so he knew that it wasn't fun bath time) and gave him a towel and made him clean his own poopy bum. It took a week and a half or so, but eventually he understood what I was trying to get at and started realizing when he had to go potty and stopping what he was doing to go and do it. I tried to wait until he was ready, but I was afraid I couldn't get him in preschool so I had to take matters into my own hands. My two year old is very verbal so I'm hoping that she will be trained alot faster. We'll see...

Sherry - posted on 12/29/2008

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I got the stickers, too! It was so easy to train my son. Go to local book store and get potty training books for you to read together. The little stickers came in the one I bought and a little chart to keep progress. It was a fun and a cinch!

Auður - posted on 12/29/2008

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Belive it or not, I ended up showing my little 3 year old girl few m&m´s in my palm and told her she could have three pieces if she did the deed. She jumped right up onto the toilet, did her thing and the rest is history :-)

Rhonda - posted on 12/29/2008

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I did this for my son and my sister did it for my nephew and now I work in an in home daycare and we use this. We get a small kitchen timer and set it for about 45-50 minutes. That way you dont forget also. Then everytime that it goes off we make a big exciting deal that it is "potty time" and they go in and try. If they go they get gummi bears or m&m's (just one) if they dont go then they try again in about 10-20 minutes. If they go #2 they get 2 of the special candy. We did this recently with a 2 year old little boy and it only took him about 2 weeks to get it all figured out and we dont even have to use the timer anymore. I have an 18 month old now and he shows some intrest so we are gradually working him that way. Boys are a lot harder than girls but they do catch on. Just have patience and he will follow. GOOD LUCK!!

Shelly - posted on 12/29/2008

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My son was into trains so I downloaded a train potty chart. He just got excited about getting stickers on the chart. With my daughter is was money. Also I discovered that with boys it was easier to put them on the regular toilet than the potty seat, I think it was uncomfortable for them and they did not get the training of holding "it" down. Hope that helps

Mandy - posted on 12/29/2008

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try this one tell your little boy that that the flower in the bottom of his pooty needs watering. so draw a flower in side his potty.it worked for me.x

Clare - posted on 12/29/2008

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hya i found the more i tried to get my daughter on the potty she wouldnt do it, then i stoped going on about it and just said little things like look at that little boy or girl how big they looked because they used the toilet and she done it herself in the end

Nancy - posted on 12/29/2008

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My son also never used a small potty he prefers the toilet and I have recently been putting a pull up on over his underwear at night to try and break him at night and so far after four days he has been dry...so that may work for you also.

Debbie - posted on 12/29/2008

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Hi, I don't use potty's for my kids, they go straight to a toilet, I have heard that if u put a ping pong ball in the toilet then get them to aim at it. it moves around so it a good game also it doesnt flush down the toilet.

Sarah - posted on 12/28/2008

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Just wanted to say THANK YOU all for your comments, support and ideas. he is officially potty trained only wearin the pullup at bedtime. and today was our first outing in public with no pullup and he had no accidents.. it was awesome...

THANKS again...

Heather - posted on 12/23/2008

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Just relax and don't stress over it. Each kid is different and potty trains at his or hers own pace. I just let my daughter now 4 do it when she was ready. I didn't try any tricks or stickers, I just sat back and knew that when she was ready she would start using the potty. She woke up one day about 2 weeks before I had my son and said "mommy I want t o wear big girl panties" and I put them on her and she hasn't had but a couple of accidents. Just relax and trust that when he is ready he will do it.

User - posted on 12/23/2008

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do not sweat the small stuff. Potty training is not the training of the child but the training of the parent to notice the signs and to act upon them.... there are certain times in the day when u know he will and does go. These are the times you utilise the potty. The reward system works for y grandson he had a pee pee jar...a penny for each time I put him on and he went a nickel for when he went on his own and a dime for poop. When he had enough change he could use it for a toy at the dollar store if he wanted. He chose a bank account and grandma to buy the toy

He will do it when he is ready....but once you take him out of diapers stay completely away from any diapering product that includes pull ups the idea is discomfort

Jennifer - posted on 12/23/2008

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With both my daughter and son, we went right to underwear. My daughter hated the feeling of peeing on herself. My son was ok with it, unfortunately. :-) We also let them help clean up after themselves, like Rhonda said. My son was not so fond of the cleaning up part, so that helped. Good luck.

Nancy - posted on 12/23/2008

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My almost 3 year old trained easily with peeing but had trouble with bowel movements...he knew he was supposed to use the potty but also complained of pain and expressed fears. I tried everything and nothing worked until I ran across a pampers website that was free with diego or dora trophy nad stickers and chart taht was free. I got it in the mail and told him if would potty every time in the big potty then he would be a super hero like diego and when he would potty I would put it on the back of the toilet and make a big deal when he went and let diego watch him flush and high five, the whole works. When he would intentionally bm in his underwear I would put the trophy up until he had a bm in the potty again. It took a few days but he hasnt had an accident in a long time. He has dry nights most of the time but still wets some at night but never during the day and he just turned 3, he started about october of this month. Good luck

Michelle - posted on 12/23/2008

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I am in the process of training my 2 year old son. I know it takes time so I thought I would start now. My trick is to turn him backwards on the toilet. I've played "choo-choo" train and given him a book to read just to get comfortable sitting there. He has even crawled up there on his own and tried to pee kneeling. He comes in the bathroom with us when we go so he kind of understands what we are doing. I haven't had to reward him with any sort of treat or sticker. I'm just trying to plant the idea in his head this is where we go potty. If you use pullups try putting his big boy undies on under the pullup so he gets used to the wet feeling. Sooner or later he will tie the wet feeling in with the urge to pee. Good luck!

Lisa - posted on 12/23/2008

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I had a special "potty party" day for my son, when he was 2 yrs. 4 months. I went all out for the day..I wrapped his potty, and Diego underwear in wrapping paper, we read a potty book to get ready for the day at breakfast, i made up and sang him a "it's your special day" song, i bought him special treats. We spent the whole day doing the potty thing. Plus I gave him LOTS of special drinks...He was So excited for his big day and loved it. Also, I never used pull ups. It was all big boys underwear, except diapers for nap and bedtime. I gave it 100%, and it worked! He was trained easily.

Christina - posted on 12/23/2008

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No pressure! My daughter did not use the potty until she was 4yrs.old. Now she does a wonderful job. You have him go with your husband and just say, "Daddy's going potty, do you want to be a big boy and try to use the potty?" I learned that by pressuring her only made it worse. She decided to go when she was ready. No kid has never not learned to go to the potty before they started kindergarten (some). That is what I have been told. It will help when he see's others his age go!

Eileen - posted on 12/23/2008

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Had same problems and time issues with my son- we first let him use the great outdoors- it was summer and seems gross but as long as it was not in his diaper or pull up seemed a step in the right direction. Once he began to identify the urge to urinate,he easily went on the potty until it was time for a bowel movement. I had the biggest task with this. He would tell me had to go, sit on the potty and feel so nervous about going he would jump up and dance around. His doctor suggested ( this will sound weird) to put him in pull ups and when he has to go let him sit on the potty with the pull up on. To explain that going potty happens in the bathroom but can still use pull up. You are to use this for a week or so until the feel comfortable then switch to pull ups with a hole cut out in them. Use this method until they are comfortable and switch to underware. This plan took my son 3 days to master. He said he had to go, I let him go into the bathroom and I left! Day two he sat on the potty , I left, Day three he took off the pull up himself and called me back in to show me! I'm not sure if I was too much pressure for him and giving him privacy helped or if the Doc knew what he was talking about and Mack caught on- All I know was we were 1 week from the first day of school and I was trying for months! Good luck and be patient...some kids just take longer than others.

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Not sure if you have received this suggestion yet, but my daughter was awful to train and I mean awful. Then my mom made a suggestion & it worked within 1 week. Everytime she had an accident we made her clean up the mess. Used papertowels on the floor, she had to take off her wet clothes & put them in the sink to be rinsed or in washer to be washed. She freaked out everytime, but we stuck to our guns & after having to clean up her mess a total of 3 times, she was done - no more accidents. Its worth a shot, every kid is different. Good luck!

Sladana - posted on 12/23/2008

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i know exactly how you feel... i just went through it with my son...boys sure are tough...he couldn't sit long enough or stop touching everything while standing at toilet. i went to dollarstore bought a few toys for potty time only...sticker book...something he'd had to sit and play with...i also bought one of those books that make sounds...he loved it...and actually stayed on the toilet cause it was the only time he could play with them...anyhow, to be honest he woke up one day and just started using the toilet...so my advice take him in there... explain what to do...the routine and when he's ready he'll know what to do...and i think thats what makes it his victory...and also dont scold the accidents...they dont last long. the potty in the living room helps too(as bad as it sounds) i wish you all the best.

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I'm working on potty training my 4 y/o. He's developmentally delayed a little so we don't fuss too much. He has no desire to try at home but goes all the time at pre-school. What is the "Potty Song" that everyone is talking about?

Jamie - posted on 12/23/2008

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My son watched my husband pee standing up and then wanted to do the same, he never liked sitting down to pee or using a potty chair. He started out copying his dad and then we used one of those toilet seats so they sit on the actual toilet. He fought going poop so we brought in some books and labeled them the "potty books" and he could only read them on the toilet. I hope some of this helps, Good luck!!

Amy - posted on 12/23/2008

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I understand where you are coming from. I also have a 3 year old and he has now been trained for a month!! I tried all of the things that are listed and occationally he would go. But one day he just decided he was ready and we went straight to underwear. I did the sticker chart and when he filled it he got to go pick out a toy. Also everytime he went I sang the potty song and danced he found that soooo funny. I believe that they do it when they are ready. Don't push it. I was concerned and my Dr. told me boys are ofter times 3 1/2 -4 when trained. We still do diapers at night, but during the day he hardly ever has an accident. Good luck!!

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Our son responded very, very favourably to little candy rewards for peeing in the potty. Going number 2, however, was not so great. Once he became aware of the sensation of needing to go he was terrified to go in a diaper, a pull up, or the potty. At one point he actually said, "Mommy, save me from pooping!" It was hearbreaking to see him scared and constipated. We offered diapers, pull ups, everything and he was just flat out refusing to go.



What helped him turn the corner and lose the fear of both pooping and the potty was pretty simplistic but worked like a charm. My husband said to our little boy, "When you poop, you'll be able to run faster. Let's try using the potty." And he did. And then he ran, and ran, and ran around the house saying, "Look how fast I am!"



My friend's little guy was a reluctant potty pooper and so they tried the same line with him and it worked.



You never know what will be the thing to help your little one along. You just have to keep trying to find that moment and be there when they are ready.

Dana - posted on 12/23/2008

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Try using a sticker chart. Every time he goes in the potty give him a sticker to put on his chart. If he is still not interested then I would not make a big deal because you might make it worse. He will go when he is ready.

Anita - posted on 12/22/2008

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I tried everything too (fruit loops in the potty, bribes, toys, peer pressure, candy, stickers, new underwear, cool underwear, you name it) - my son was 3 and he refused to go on the potty. All my friend's kids (boys & girls) were potty trained and I tried to use them as examples for my son - to no avail. I felt extremely guiltly as I work full time and wasn't home to put him on the potty as per a schedule. Daycare tried to help, however, as it is a small daycare, my son was the oldest of the toddlers and didn't have an example to see - and being the only child, no sibling to follow after. So, I decided to stop pressuring him, or mentioning it to him, took away the potty (hide it in the closet) and put him back in diapers. He asked where his potty was and I told him that I put it away because he didn't want to use it and wasn't quite a big boy yet. Then within a month, he asked for the potty and overnight was trained to go "pee". By 3 1/2 he was wearing underwear to daycare, but would need to have a diaper put on to go "#2". He refused to go "#2" on the potty. I started to get him to go "#2" in his diaper in the bathroom, with the hopes that we could move to the toilet/potty. This went on for 3 months - we started planning toward his 4th birthday, building up that he was a big boy now, the diapers wouldn't fit when he turned 4 and only babies wear diapers (I even prepared with small diapers to show him on his 4th birthday) - and 1 week before his birthday, he decided that he would not wear diapers to go "#2" anymore. I quickly put away the diapers & removed the change table. In the end, it was all a control issue - he decided when he was ready. Apparently I fretted over this for nothing, when in reality, he just wasn't ready at 3 or 3 1/2, rather 4 for him was the right time. You will figure out what works for him and be there when he is ready.

Amber - posted on 12/22/2008

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google 3daypottytrainer.com it took me five days to potty train my daughter, Everyone that has used it that I suggested it to it worked.

Niki - posted on 12/22/2008

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Another thing that seemed to get my twins (Boy/Girl) potty trained was stickers.

I went to the Dollar store and picked them each a little sticker book and a variety of stickers. If they tried to go pee they would get a little sticker, if they succeeded they would get a bigger one and if the pooped they would get a large shiny sticker.

They would pick out there own sticker and run right to their sticker books so now they have their own sticker collection.

They are both trained and it happened all together and they still show off their "bathroom sticker books."

Jackie - posted on 12/22/2008

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I love the idea of the dish soap! I've never tried that, and my boys are both potty trained. They will really do it on their own time, though. My 2 yr old son didn't take long because he was able to watch big brother go potty, so naturally, he wanted to do it. Don't stress. Don't worry about school. You've got PLENTY of time.

Kimberly - posted on 12/22/2008

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I used this trick with both of my boys and it worked. You put cheerios in the toilet and he aims for them, kind of a gross game, but they liked it. I also sang a silly potty song and everytime they went in the potty, they got m&m's. :) Good luck, Kim

Tiffany - posted on 12/22/2008

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i have 2 girls and i used a basket that sat on a shelf above the toilet filled with little cheep toys and treats and every time they told me they needed to go potty before they had an accident they got to get a toy. It made them want to go. Oh and i found it helps if you have special toys for #2.

Julie - posted on 12/22/2008

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I really hate to say this but he will use it when he is ready. It the meantime you can buy him some cool underpants and tell him big boys wear this all the time.

User - posted on 12/22/2008

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so i wanted to just give a head up about one of the suggestions....potty training your child by taking them to the bathroom every hour teaches mom or dad to take their kid to a toilet every hour and thats about it. The children dont learn to go by the bodys natural triggers and this will back fire when they dont have access to a toilet like at day care and school or in night training. food coloring! get ood coloring and put a dot in the toilet when he pees the whole bowl will turn the color and this also opens up an oppurtunity to teach about what happins when you mix different colors with yellow! good luck

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My son was just over 3 when I toilet trained him. Tried everything that was mentioned below and nothing seemed to work. My mother's suggestion (which I though was harsh at the time) was to go home and tell him we had run out of nappies and couldn't get them anymore. He knew I had nappies in his room which I told him we would keep for night times. within 4 days he no longer had any accidents during the day and while he still wore a nappy to bed for the first week or two they were all dry.

Deborah - posted on 12/22/2008

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it's been a while, but the only thing I really remember is the more we pushed... the more they resisted. It can be frustrating... but he'll let you know when he's ready. I understand you want him trained before he goes to school.. Summer is an easier time because you don't have to worry about him freezing if he wets.

Roberta - posted on 12/22/2008

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Be patient!! Don't push him to do it if he is not ready. My son was potty trained in about 2 months before he was 2. My daughter, on the other hand, was much more trouble. She didn't do it until she was ready. What I did was start with one thing. Once she got good at going pee in the potty then we started working on the poo. She was in pull-ups for a very long time until she got good at it. I took her into the potty every time i went, and i encouraged her to go. We still carry a portable potty in the car just in case (and it has come in handy more than once!). What worked really well for her was gummy bears. Everyone close to her got in on the act encouraging her every day and praising her each time she did it. The most important thing to remember is that he will do it when he is ready (even if you have been ready for a long time!). Do not push him. Also try starting with him sitting to pee first. Once he has that down then work on having him stand. Good Luck! Hope that helps.

Brittany - posted on 12/22/2008

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Let him throw some Fruit Loops in the potty and then have him aim at them. Never thought to try this with my first son, but when it comes to potty training the next son I'm gonna try it and see how it works. Good Luck!

Sarah - posted on 12/22/2008

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well thank you all for your ideas... and so far ive tried all of those. from puttin fruit loops in the toilet (he picks them out) to pickin out underwear (he dont wanna pee in them)

the sticker thing he tries to pick them out.

as for waitin for him to be ready thats hard cuz hes ready one day and the other hes not. ive tried rewarding him when he does go and then he reverts back to pull ups so im jus flustered considerin he starts school in september id like to get him trained now while im off work...

Michelle - posted on 12/22/2008

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don't stress over it my son will be four next month and he became potty trained in his own time. we took him to the bathroom evry two haurs but asked him if he had to go every half hour just to remind him. also putting him in pull ups helps. he will get the hang of it. just keep incouraging him.

Marie - posted on 12/22/2008

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Have you tried waiting until he is ready? I have 2 boys, 41/2 and 3, and they both started using the potty when they were ready. Much less stress and aggravation! He will let you know when he's ready, and then it's a breeze=]

Shannon - posted on 12/22/2008

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Did you try letting him pick out his won underwear?? It was the only way we ever got my daughter to use the potty... and ohhh it took so long to find ones she actually liked!!

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I haven't tried this, but my boss swore by it. She would put a little dish soap in the toilet and tell him to go potty to make bubbles. It worked like a charm. Not only that, but he quickly learned that the more potty he had, the more bubbles it made so he naturally started only going when he needed to instead of every 10 mins as treats can encourage them to do. We used treats, though :)

I trained my 3-year-old boy and 2-year-old girl at the same time. Girls are WAY easier, so it helped create some positive peer pressure for him. It took him a lot longer. I also told them we were out of diapers and just went to undies cold turkey. My daughter caught on right away but it was quite a few accidents for him. It got slowly better and now we only have a few setbacks. Good luck! It definitely drags on with boys! They just aren't as motivated, I think.

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