I need help to control my 7yrs old's bad attitudes, talk back and mouthy to me.

Amy - posted on 03/25/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Any moms out there with their child(ren) taking piano lesson? My 7 yrs old daughter and I always ended up with argument when we practice piano. She's mouthy, talking back to me all the time when I ask her to play again or that is not the right note. She would said, "I don't care." or "Whatever". Makes me wants to slap her face. How can I turn that into a positive force and how can I punish her for that kind of talk?

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Kate CP - posted on 04/01/2011

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I agree with Jodi. The consequences are her's if she doesn't do the work, not your's.

Jodi - posted on 04/01/2011

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So tell her that you are not going to pay for her lessons any more if she is not going to put in the effort.

I still don't understand why you need to watch her......

Amy - posted on 04/01/2011

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Thanks Jennifer, yes, that's exactly what happened. She likes to play on her own will and if she makes mistakes she'll just pass it and move on to the next notes.
Jodi and Katherine, I have backed out many times and see if she can practice by herself so we don't bicker each other, but her teacher will correct her fingering, reading the notes wrong so I still have to watch her.

Jodi - posted on 04/01/2011

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So, what happens if she doesn't do her practice? Her piano teacher will reprimand her, or she will fall behind, and her teacher won't be pleased with her. I'd just let it go and allow that to happen, and see if that bothers her.

Katherine - posted on 04/01/2011

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I agree, it sounds to me like she doesn't like it. I took piano lessons and I hated them. All they did was frustrate me. I think you should back off a little and see what she does.

Jennifer - posted on 04/01/2011

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I just wouldn't push the issue. I have a 7 year old son, and I know how mouthy they can be. I've heard before, that 7 in some ways is worse than 16, because they are still to young and immature to do a lot of the "big kid" things, but too old to be a "little kid". My son isn't learning the piano yet (we just got one last week, and it's been 7 years since I've played, so I'm trying to remember every thing before I start teaching) but since I did take piano when I was younger, I can relate to your daughter a little. I remember when I first started, I loved it. I wanted to practice every moment possible, because I thought with in the first couple weeks I'd be playing incredibly complex pieces. Once reality sunk in, a month after I started and was still on my beginner book, I lost interest. I wanted to go to my lessons, but hated to practice. Once I started learning things that were harder, I really started getting into it again. I'm so thankful that my parents never pushed and didn't force me to practice. I think if they would have, I would have quit. By them stepping back, and letting me do my own thing, I learned to love it again.

Amy - posted on 03/31/2011

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It's not that she does not like piano lesson. It's the homework and practices she hates. I would have her repeat the notes she played wrong again and again but she just wants to get it done fast.

Jodi - posted on 03/25/2011

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Have you considered that she doesn't LIKE her piano lessons and if asked, probably may not wish to continue them?

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