Sarah - posted on 01/13/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
I have been with my partner for 6 years and we have lived together for 4. We brought our first home together last year. He has a daughter of 12 who I have not been able to get on with and a son of 10 who I have a very strong relationship with. I get a sense of dread every time the daughter is coming because the household changes every time. I have tried everything from working so I am not around to making the effort and always have it thrown in my face. She will be good as gold while I'm out and as soon as I sit down its prating about on the sofa, antagonising her brother and general irritating behaviour. I asked her five times last time she was there to stop humming as we were watching a film, all I get is a glare and smirk!! I know I should ignore it as I'm fuelling the fire but I find it so hard!! I am now at the stage where it's Wednesday and their due on Friday and I am having nightmares literally about her coming and wake up stressed as though the argument has really happened. Am I going mad??? I don't want to recluse into my bedroom as I had before when it was his flat as this is now my home but I don't know what else to do as just being in the same room as her can wind me up!! I am at my wits end and want to be able to get through her visits without the rows with my partner. Please advise????? I am not leaving him so failure is not an option lol!!!