I need help with a good Routine!

Peta - posted on 02/10/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi moms! I really need some help on getting my boys into a good routine. My eldest is 5yrs old and youngest is 3.5yrs old. I put them into bed at 7pm and hopefully it doesn't take too long for them to go to sleep. The problem is - I never know, when they will wake in the mornings. It can be, anything from 5am-7am. Sometimes, they wake during the night for a drink or because they are searching for their dummies. They are both in Nursery from around 8am-4pm. The other problem is that I really don't know how to feed them, play with them, bath them and put them to bed... all in the space of only 2 hrs. I keep chopping and changing the Routine BUT that seems to upset them and it makes me really nervous and stressed! Any advice, is welcome:-) Thanks Peta

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Peta - posted on 02/13/2014

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Hello Jeanne. I'm a stay at home, mom! You would think that maybe the stress would be less hahaha The past two days have been really good with my new Routine for the evenings... I hope, I don't jinx it. How many kids do you have?

Peta - posted on 02/11/2014

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I wanted to actually read the eldest a story while youngest was bathing BUT he wanted the story in the CD player. Usually, I do sing to them and read but lately they prefer the CD player

Peta - posted on 02/11/2014

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Hello Brittnie,

I tried a different Routine today. I decided to give them my attention from 5pm-6pm. Ok, it wasn't at all FULLY my attention:-( The problem tho, they both were fighting quite a lot so that made me more stressed. I then started dinner at 6pm. We finished eating at around 6.45pm. Tidies up and 6.50pm they watched their good-night story on TV until 7pm. I rushed them into the bad (with both, crying because they are so tired) However, I quickly washed the eldest first, got him dressed, brushed teeth and into bed with a good-night story on the CD player. Then into the bathroom for my youngest. It was a rush BUT both fell asleep without any problems:-) Wow, I am drained hahaha thank you for listening:-) and replying so quickly. Where are you from? Regards Peta

Brittnie - posted on 02/10/2014

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No problem :) I understand how that feels I didn't have any support system until I meant my partner I am very lucky but that doesn't make our jobs as mothers any easier really its still a very hard 24 hour job and we all need some support and a new pair of eyes to look at a situation at times. I get like that at times as well. However if I wasn't in such an hurry I could have probably came up with an actual time frame schedule lol. I have a good routine for my girls. I will be honest there's days when life gets you over speed so if I had to put them to bed a little later than normal I never skipped reading or singing because I have done research and also believe that its very important at all cost to at least keep that a good night routine :) If you have any more questions feel free to ask me. Have a great night!!

Peta - posted on 02/10/2014

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Hello Brittnie,

Thank you so much for your advice:-) I really appreciate it! I will try this Routine, for sure. Gosh, its not always easy lol This is a great website. I have no support network where I live so I think this "circle of moms" - will do the job.

Have a good day and thanks again

Brittnie - posted on 02/10/2014

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Sorry for my grammar and spelling I am having a hard time seeing today and I am in a hurry.

Brittnie - posted on 02/10/2014

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Hello Peta,

I have two children as well, different ages but here is what I would do if I were you.
For starters I would change their bed time to 9 pm if possible due to the fact you don't have enough time to feed them, play with them and bath them, and put them to bed in a good nice routine.

So from the time you pick them up from Nursery which I am assuming is anywhere between 4:00-4:30 pm and get home which you would know which time you normally get home but lets say by 5 pm your home with the kiddos.
This is a great time to have your oldest one take a shower while your cooking up some thing to eat. To ensure safety leave bathroom door open and remove anything like razzes or anything that could hurt him or her and check up every 5 to 10 min. or any time you hear a strange sound such as him or her screaming or ect. So for you 3.5 year old put something on T.V that he or she like to watch, or lay out some toys in the living room or their bedroom while they play finish up on cooking. Go ahead and take along your 3.5 year old into the bathroom while your cleaning up ur 5 year old to ensure your 3.5 year old doesn't get hurt in the kitchen unless you have some one to help watch over your 3.5 year old.
So clean up ur 5 year old and get him or her dressed and ready for dinner.
Eat dinner with your babies.
Once your done have your 5 year old play with any toys or watch T.V or help you out with handing you the soap and rag to watch your 3.5 year old quickly wash your youngest while including your oldest if same sex or if you don't feel comfortable with that like I said entertain your oldest with something to watch on T.V as soon as your done washing your youngest, go ahead and spend some quality mommy time with both of them rather its reading to them or playing with them in some sort of way. Remember if you react to the same things they like even if its silly your commination with them in their baby language such as if they clap over something silly go along with it. Give your self at least 30 to and hour of quality time by this time if all is well it should be closer to 8:30 pm . Now bed time for babies, if you haven't yet go ahead and start a bedtime routine at least this of all things its very nice for children to feel safe and loved right before bed, so if you sing songs or if you could read some baby books to them each night every night for at least 10-30 min each night it will be a very good thing. so if its 8:30 or if its 8:45 whichever or even 8:50 pm you have 10 min to sing a few lullabies or read a book or two, I normally sing at least 5 songs and read 3 books, unless I am crunched for time then I only read one book or two and sing three songs, each night may vary depending on how many songs or books you can read but remember as long as you do at least one of each on the worse night to keep to a routine to be in bed by the time you set its better than nothing. .
If your children wake up at night for something to drink then give them something to drink and send them back to bed with loves and kisses. If they choose to wake up earlier then let them its fine if they are in their rooms playing.
I hope this helps a little if its confusing I will try to rewrite this to you another time in better format if your interested. I have a doctor apt I have to get ready for.

Thanks
BD

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