Christa - posted on 06/22/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hello, I am new to this and I don't have anybody who can relate to what I am going through around me so I am looking for advice. My 14 year old has been having issues since she was about 8 years old. It started with being hooked on Hannah Montanna and she would come home with these lunch bags with her on them and tell me they were givin to her but one day I got concerned and asked her if she was lying and she told me she found it in the slush on the side of the road on her way home from school. But the lunch bag was bone dry? So i got worried about her stealing them and I had the school keep a look out for things she would do and I got a phone call one day because she had seen a pair of Hannah montanna sneakers on the floor and she got caught telling her little friend to put them in her bag and that they were hers. So I asked for the cops to be called to teach her a lesson. that ended real fast but then she just started to have people pick on her at school and make fun of her for liking Hannah montanna so much. She stoped doing sthings that she once loved to do and she didnt go out side much but played on her computer and phone plenty but was telling a lot of lies for no reason like adding to storeys or just making up something tottaly untrue just to get a reaction out of us. After a while I couldn't believe much of what she said but I could usually pick out the truth from the lie but she got really good after a while. She started cutting herself and hid it from us for almost a year. I had no idea it was that bad. I guess from being picked on at school and people getting after her on the internet. Maybe she didn't want to come to me because I wouldn't believe her problems? I could never turn away a cry for help if I knew she was asking for help. Of corse I love my baby girl and would do anything for her. It has been years since this started that it grew into her seeing a psycologist and she is on prozac for depression and anxiety. She has 2 younger brothers who she is aweful to a lot. But my oldest son is very soft hearted and lets her hang arond him and she has him cursing to people he don't know and he lets her put make up on his face and streightens his hair then takes his picture on snapchat and shares it. He is 10 years old and he tells me that he lets her do this to him because it's the only time he is nice to her. She calls me from school almost every day and tells me that these kids are taking pictures of her and calling her names or they are saying bad things about her brother and when i ask for the hole story it changes because i will call the guidence councler to go talk with her. She is trying to go home every day so she makes up lies and if we dont believe her she gets all mad and threatens us with doing self harm in the school bathroom or commiting suicide there. I don't understand why she is doing this to us every day it's the same thing. We get her calls and we call the school to try to solve it and the school tells us that she is hanging out with all these kids who she tells us are bullying her. We get her home and she is all happy again like nothing happened. I don't know what to do or think anymore. I believe she has a problem and she needs help she sees a doctor every week and she is on medication but with all this lying and making stuff up. Of corse it goes deeper than that but i am close to the end of my rope with her... Please help me.....