i need some advice

Kim - posted on 01/17/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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i have a step brother that was diagnosed with adhd and also aspergers.... One doctor says both the next says just adhd. He is 20 years old now and my parents are at a stand still and dont know what to do. He is very smart and is able to do anything thats why many people dont see any thing wrong with him. He has a bad habit of lieing, he has a hard time acting his age hes 20 but acts14 is.. socially he is not smart at all.. He has a hard time interacting with girls we are afraid of him getting introuble bacause no matter what girl he comes accross he right away wants her to be his girlfriend. He had a job and was doing great but then got fired for sexual harrassment due to a unwanted hug. Now we are afraid to let him have another job cause we dont wont him in jail. He is obsessed with talking about him self and making lists about his likes and dislikes and his personality. He thinks he is the best at everything and obsesses over it. I took him to my 8 and 5 yr old school function not to long ago and he could stay in one place because there was so many kids and he had to talk to all of them and be the center of everyones conversation. In his mind he is good at entertaining little kids. He has been sneaking on the internet and talking to different girls some in chat room and some on x rated sites and he dosent understand that some of these girls arnt real and could be a child. is there anywhere that we can go to get him help and the services that he needs??

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Kim - posted on 01/18/2013

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We also talk to him all the time and he has been seeing a doctor and talking to them but he is very smart and tells u what u wanna here n dosent see he has a problem. Only time he doses see it is when he is in major trouble then he starts talking about all his falts... just yesterday he made a list of why is lies and what problens he has ... he also told me when he does things its not him something talkes over him?? I told him these r things he needs to tell a doctor, im hoping he gets the help he needs!

Kim - posted on 01/18/2013

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My parents have blocks on the tv n dont allow him to use the internet... the past two time s he has snuck on his little nieces tablets everyday for about three weeks (we thought he was watching tv or he would do it while I got a shower) & while visiting family over the holidays he snuck on his little cousins ipod for a while... we try to do everything we can to keep him out of trouble... he is on meds for adhd... just yesterday we were making phone calls for a doctor that specializes in this because until we get a diagnosis no one will help him.. we have an apt on tue next week... I feel he needs to be in a suport group or have a job coach because he is more then capable of working or just to be in sone kind of program... we just cant get the help to do so..

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/17/2013

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First of all, get parental control over your computer. You can lock out certain sites and accesses to the comp. Secondly, put it in a family area where he does not have privacy. I would look into the schools in your area for advice what kind of programs in your area would be great for learning social skill. Talk to him. Be frank about his unwanted touching of others. Explain to him that hugs are for those that are family members or more than that,. It does sound like he needs help in the social area. Has he ever been on medicine for his condition? Has it helped? Is that and option? I am not a huge fan of drugs, I think they are overly prescribed, but for those that really need it, they can work wonder.

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