I Need some advice on when to tell my daughter she has 2 daddys

Ashley - posted on 06/17/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Please help me. my daughters bio dad whats back into the picture and he hasn't been around really since she was 1 month old. a great man has been raising her for over 4 years, i'm tired of lying to my daughter and it hurts me to do so. i just don't know what the right age is (she is almost 5)

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/17/2014

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Well, by not telling them to begin with, you did yourself a disservice. Now you need to sit them down and explain that some choices were made after they were born, and that those choices need to change now. Explain that their biological father is interested in contact, and be prepared to answer why you either didn't allow the contact before, or didn't encourage it.

You'll need to do this without being negative about the situation, as well. I'm not sure how exactly to phrase it to a 5 and a bit older child, but honesty is the best policy.

I do wish you all the luck in the world, though. I'm not sure what I'd say, exactly, except I know I'd have to tell my kids that perhaps the choices that were made weren't exactly the correct ones at the time. How you do this without looking the fool, well, I'm not sure, but your kids are young enough to not hold anything against you.

Ashley - posted on 06/17/2014

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also she has an older sister who needs to know but has a more difficult situation and a 2 year old brother

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