Rachel - posted on 04/27/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )
Me and my hubby have been married 4 years together 8. We have 3 kids a 4 yr old 2 yr old and a 4 month old. I just want a bit of advice because i don't know what to do. I think i deserve more from him. I'm 24. I met him when i was just 17 and had only been in 1 long term relationship before him. I love my husband more than anything but at the moment im feeling like i dont want to be 35 years old and wishing i had of changed my life around for me and the kids earlier. His a great dad- he just doesnt help me. And he makes me feel so ugly. He is always at work. Every single day. 6am till 530pm and weekends 6 till 1 or 2. He works for his friend and i guess he puts his job first. His not interested in doing anything as a family like going to the beach etc. He loves his work. I get up every day at 530 to get him his breakfast and off to work. I clean all day and look after the kids and do the shopping etc all on my own. I do all the housework and everything for the kids. Bathing, dinner, brushing teeth, bum changes you name it. I get up everynight to feed the baby. He never got up once with our 2 yr old either. He used to be really good with our first son. His never bathed them or changed our babys bum. He wont even feed her a bottle unless i ask. Actually his never bathed either. He wont eat dinner or breakfast at the table with the kids because he cant stand the mess so he likes having dinner after 8. So i dont get to clean up till late. He gets the shits and expects me to have the house sparkley clean and the car washed and vacuumed when he gets home. He has no idea. And he drinks alot. Every day when his home he drinks and drinks. He will play with the kids but hardly. He loves our baby girl. I dont want to take the kids away from their dad but im sick of doing everything on my own. I feel like a single mum. Its his mum to thank because she done everything for him when he lived at home. I ask him for help and tell him how i feel but he doesnt care. I know he would be devostated if i left. I dont have many friends just my 2 sister in laws. Thats his fault to because when he first got together he tried to get together with my friends. And god knows who else. I do have trust issues and thats his fault. He worked with a girl he used to say he was attracted to and id hear him tell his brother about her. Then he started deleting messages from her. We argued about her and he took off... and went to her house for a party. Shes left his work now so thats good. He swears he never liked her or did anything with her but at the end of the day i cant wrap my head around what he did. Maybe its just me as i wouldnt or couldn't do that. Do you think im asking to much?