I need some advice. The father of my child split two weeks later he moved in with his gf of two weeks who had a 5 year old daughter. He got fired from his job and is now living off her. He demanded that I bring our son to his new house overnight or whatever, He is a drug addict. Pills, liquor. The last time I saw him he was twitchy so I think he is using some bad drugs. My question is Do I take him to court and risk him getting joint custody or do I just ignore him and hope he goes away because he wont stop calling my son demanding him. But everytime we talk he swears at me and calls me names and hangs up. Help me I don't know what to do.


Sarah - posted on 02/02/2012




I'd go to court. They can do a drug/alcohol test and I think he'd be unlikely to get custody if he's using. Having said that, if he's clean, your son has the right to get to know his father.


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Jenni - posted on 02/11/2012




You definitely need to go to court. It's unlikely he will be awarded joint custody if he does indeed have a drug addiction. The courts are looking out for the best interest of the child, the best interest will not be an unstable environment that involves drug abuse. There is also a thing called supervised visitation which may be awarded if he tests positive for drugs. A social worker will be present during his visitations.

Call a lawyer ASAP. In the meantime keep conversations with him to a limit. Only talk about the child. Consult your lawyer on your concerns with visitation and his drug abuse because firstly, you don't want to appear like a bitter ex disrupting visitation out of spite in court but you also don't want to put your son at risk. So definitely seek legal advise on how to proceed.

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This is going to sound cruel but it's honest. The new gf isn't any greater of a 'clown' than the OP because let's remember, she picked him too at one point.

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2012




Oh wow he sounds like a real winner moving in with his gf of 2 weeks and mooching off her.....and she sounds equally as good of a parent by subjecting her 5 year old daughter to some random dope addict stranger living under the same roof.....hats off to those 2 clowns!!

Maggie - posted on 02/02/2012




Of course all I want is for my son to be with his father. His father didn't have one so he of all people should know how it feels. Its not like that at all Ive offered to drop my son off in a public place anywhere. I can't trust his father with him alone he is too deep into his addiction but I know he loves his son thats what makes this so hard. I don't know what to do or what the right thing is. He's not healthy right now and all I want is for him to be back in his life my son needs his father.

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