I need some assitance with a class assignment, just a couple of questions for the mothers new & old

Brittany - posted on 04/03/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Talk with three parents. Ask the following questions of each parent:

What change was least expected after your baby was born?

How did communication with your partner and others change after the baby was born?

How did having a child affect your marriage or relationship (if the parent was in a committed relationship at the time the baby arrived)?

If it's not a problem, I would really appreciate it.
Thanks

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Abigail - posted on 04/03/2013

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I have 3 children so I'll tell you my experience from each one. The first two are 2 yrs apart but 5/7 yrs difference in age with my third child.

1. What change was least expected after your baby was born?

First child it was like there was no baby in the house at all. No changes.

Second child had colic for about 3-6 months hardly slept thru the night but slept during the day. Got thrush and rashes so that was certainly unexpected.

Third child we never expected him to have so many little issues. He had breathing problems right from the start and had to be propped up to sleep. We had to keep an eye on him constantly so we hardly slept. We had to take naps when he slept to get some energy. He also suffered from eczema and had to be putting creams and ointments on him constantly.

How did communication with your partner and others change after the baby was born?

Before my first child was born I didn't have any relationship with my husbands' parents/family. They didn't like me and couldn't talk to me for some odd reason. But then when my first child was born everything changed after 3 months. They started talking to me and wanting to hold the baby more and more. And from that point on our relationship blossomed. My husband was always very helpful and we worked as a team when our children were babies. We were always on the same page and would take turns getting up, even thou he had to work in the mornings. He would help and take over when he got home from work so I could do other things.

How did having a child affect your marriage or relationship (if the parent was in a committed relationship at the time the baby arrived)?

With my first two children nothing changed, in fact our relationship was better. We communicated more and were always eager to spend time together. But when we had our third child, everything changed. He was still helpful and always there to for the kids, but not so much for me anymore. My husband wasn't as helpful and we didn't talk as much or spent as much time together anymore. He started staying out more and more until I complained and asked what was wrong and for his help.

I don't know why things changed but I suppose it happens sometimes. Maybe he just needed some time to take it all in and adjust. I don't think he was expecting the third child to be more work.

Hope this helps :)

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Abigail - posted on 04/04/2013

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Glad to help :) My kids are bigger now and it's so much easier, but with each age comes different challenges. So we as parents NEVER stop learning and growing with our kids.

You can always send me msg if you like on her or look me up on FB :)

Brittany - posted on 04/04/2013

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Very helpful thanks for your post, to see that you and your husband had to go through so much with each child is very inspiring to me as a new mother. I was just worried about having to change two diapers at once if I added another child to my family so soon. But yes very helpful thanks, because I'm a stay at home mom in a new town and state I don't have any friends here so thank you for taking the time to respond to my post.

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