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Ok ladies, I know that it is late, but I just cannot sleep. I have been so stressed over this, that I just cannot get any good stretch of sleep, if I can even settle enough to fall asleep in the first place. So, my son will be 2 years old the 28th of April. I have noticed some things that have brought up quite a bit of concern as it would for any parent. Now, bare with me ladies, because this will be quite a lengthy entry, however, that is obviously why we are all here, to listen, and speak as mothers to mothers and share our experiences. So, I am going to share with you my experience. For starters, when I visit our OBGYN, she never lets me finish what I have to say, or share with her about my son, Connor, and his development, what milestones hes reached, etc. She is quick to interrupt before listening to what I fully need to tell her, and seems to just try to rush the appointments along as quickly as possible. Leaving me with little, to no answers. My son, Connor, will be 2 years old in just a few short weeks. He is only saying few words, such as 'mama, dada, no, out, go,' and those are literally about all he will say. I have tried everything, and I work with him hours on end through the day as I have since the day he was born. When he was younger, he reached all his milestones early. Holding his head up, cooing, grasping objects, eye contact, eating, laughing, smiling back, reaching, sitting up, rolling over, walking. But it has seemed since he hit the 16 months mark, he has showed a huge lack in development. This has really struck me out of nowhere because I try so hard for hours on end every day. I sit and repeat words, point things out, try to hold a conversation. Nothing seems to be working. Now, before anyone goes off saying " Autism Spectrum Disorder " my child has reached all the milestones EXCEPT talking. The thought of Autism crosses my mind every day. But at the same time, things will happen that make me reconsider that. Let me start off with the behaviors that make me think " Autism ". My son has an obsession with wheels, no matter what the object is, if it has wheels, its getting turned over and the wheels are getting checked out. However, checking out the wheels wont last long, and he will flip it over and return playing with it like a normal toy. Such as a ride on elephant he has. He will obsess over the wheels for a few minutes, then turn it right side up and get on and ride it with no problem. Tip toes: He will walk on his tip toes for a few minutes at random times. Its not a repetitive behavior, because he will do it spontaneously maybe once every few months. Same with spinning and strange hand movements that he does. He has melt downs over every little thing. Such as me shutting a door, because we are leaving that room. The bathroom especially. He screams BLOODY MURDER when bath time is over and fights to get back into the tub. It is the same with going outside. When it is time to come in, all heck breaks loose. Obviously, I cannot sit outside and play with him all day, because I have a household to keep up with, nor can I sit and let him turn into a prune in the bath. He throws things constantly. He does not make pretend play with his toys. But he finds amusement when me or his father play pretend with his toys. He has an obsession with laundry. And will find a piece of laundry, whether it be out of the dirty clothes or a freshly folded pile, and carry it around with him as if it were a lovie item for hours if I allow him. When I try to take it, who couldve guessed it, he has a complete breakdown. He has SO many toys that he shows no interest in. He would rather just run laps around the house. He doesnt get into things, or touch or break things like most children. I think this is due to me being around him every moment of his life. He isnt a very picky eater, as long as it smells good, he will finish a whole bowl of it and most times goes for seconds. He wont point to the things he wants, instead he will just sit and whine at me until after minutes of trying, I realize its not working, and give him the food, drink, toy, or whatever he is wanting. He is an only child. And my first and only pregnancy. He doesnt get much child interaction because I cant part with my little one or be away from him ( such as putting him in daycare ) and what is the point if I am a stay at home mom and have the time to dedicate to my son which is so much more important to him than a daycare provider would be. He will make eye contact for good periods of time, depending on what it is about. He will follow directions like 'close the fridge, bring mommy a book to read, turn the page, help mommy put your shoes on, raise your arms up so we can put the shirt on, turn on the light switch, lets put our toys into the toy tub' and will do all of them. I can get his attention most of the time. He is very affectionate, but with me only. I will set chopped up bananas, cheerios, and cheezits on his high chair tray, unsorted, and he will sort the cheerios one by one into one side of the highchair, the cheezits in the other corner, and the banana in the drink holder section. ( This is an example, he will do it with any snacks ) But he does eat them, and usually finishes them all. He will close the fridge door, he understands no, and will automatically stop what hes doing when I say no. He will take bugle chips and place them one by one on his fingers and then show me and eat them off one by one and gets tickled by it. When i hand him his comb, he will comb his own hair. He loves to have his hair blow dried with the blow dryer. He used to wave bye bye when he was younger, but has seemed to stop completely. He claps when he knows he has been a good boy and done a good deed. He will mock faces me and his father make. He can open doors just fine. He does high fives great. He will sit and roll a ball back and forth to me for as long as I roll it back to him. He will point to outside, and say out. He can feed himself with a spoon. Hes been drinking from a sippy since he was 9 months. He will only give me kisses. I make the kissy face and smooch sound at him, and he will lean in and give mommy a smoochy. During bath, he will scrub his own head during 'rinse time'. Most times he will respond to his name, depending on his mood. Sometimes he will glimpse at me out of the corner of his eye and smirk, because he knows hes ignoring me. He HATES diaper changes. Daddy shows him on a daily basis how to use the big boy potty. But instead he would rather stick his hand into dadas pee stream, or prop his little arms up on the side of the tub and pee on the side of the tub. I appreciate those of you who have taken the time out of your day to read this, and are interested in sharing your experiences and have a passion for helping moms as myself who just cant quite understand what is going on with our little angels. My son will show signs of Autism but then turn around and show signs of complete genius. I am not sure what to do at this point. Or how to feel. But i know as mothers, going through the things I am, you can give me help and support and truly feel what I am feeling as mother. I appreciate all of your time and replies more than youll ever know!!