I need some serious advice and help. I had dss or cps called in on me by a neighbor who has always been jealous of what me and my other neighbor ,my best friend, have.

Beth - posted on 04/20/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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. I also was going thru a divorce and am a single mom a my 10 yr old son and after 4 yrs a manic episodes was starting. My friend I have known for about 3and a half years helped a bit going thru separating with my husband who was not healthy for myself in turn nor my son he left in July of 2014. The neighbor next to me who never fit in didn't say much nor did I say much to her. But she always tried to talk with my friend. Long story short I began to feel a manic episode coming on and Dont not have a support. System for my illness I try o keep it together but the neighbor that didn't fit started seeing my different behaviors and my supposed friend didn't stop her from calling allegations I am waiting to hear th he outcome but the were exaggerated and not true I passed the drug test etc. They basically interrogated my 10 yr old ....now I wait she admitted it was her who called in and said it was to hurt me.

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Sarah - posted on 04/23/2015

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The thing with school yard gossip is while it is toxic, it rarely lasts long. As long as you do what you need to do, people will get over the drama and things will settle down.

Beth - posted on 04/23/2015

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Yes...I actually had an appointment setup for therapy and to get on medication that would hopefully work...but it hasn't in the past. But I am very sure it isn't the best environment for my son and when cps came they didn't have a plan in place they looked around

Beth - posted on 04/23/2015

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Thank you for that. I unfortunately live in between my ex friend whom my son and I did everything with for years and on the o t her side is the neighbor who wanted all of that and helped out by calling cps. Its a crazy long story but yes it's been hard first the divorce then the shock for my son his dad was everything I told him he wouldn't be I work from home and volunteer at the school so I relied on my friend for support and encouragement and sometimes entertainment. I walk him to school alone now and the other moms walk with Ashley that's her name she is very manipulative. I worry about Caleb my son his friends all hang out next door but since I have been replaced he has been told he wasn't welcomed anymore....I mean really who says that and to make it worse his best bud said it to him since Ashley is the mother and we always said not to involve the kids but just another lie. I won't tolerate for my child to have his heart broke again I asked him what he.replied with and he said he just walked away oh my god...I have been very quiet about this since I can't make someone want to be my friend so I blocked her # she removed me from the Facebook which I am never on so I just deactivated it . The meds is actually working or something is I don't feel so worthless but now have to rebuild everything again since after my episode which I did talk to Ashley about for the first time I admitted to her what I was afraid of and what has always happened I lose everything I work so hard to build after each episode job savings and friends. She listened but after a week of txt back and forth she hung out with the neighbor non stop and only txt a couple more times after that week and proof...it's over she now goes everywhere with the other neighbor her kids tell my son he is not invited and they are outside mostly and I work outside sometimes and I am invisible....I am lost as what my next step is since I have to start from the beginning again no friends only far away which I hardly talk to find another job and find money fast.....I hate this illness I am one hopefully the right meds it had been almost 4 years since the last one thats a lot of life to build just to lose in 2 months but I am thankful I still have my little man at the end. Cps is taking their time which makes me nervous...45days I have been done with all they needed me to do I past the drug test he spoke with Caleb he needed a back ground check and that's it but I bet they will wait but I have called his supervisor 2 times once last week once today. For an update and no call back. And funny thing I already had decided to go get help for my bipolar and had an appointment setup with the director of mental health specializes in mood disorders..

Sarah - posted on 04/21/2015

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You must feel frustrated and lonely. Mental health issues can be tough to manage. The good news is they did not take your child away from you. Sadly there is probably a gossip chain around school and no one really know what to sat to you. The best advice I can give, is continue your meds, go to therapy and hole our head high. the shock will wear off and things will settle down. As long as you know your child is safe with you, to heck with the moms.

Beth - posted on 04/21/2015

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Yes I am bipolar I have been with an abusive husband for 12 years that finally had to be ended he left last July. I have very bad depression and anxiety have been on lexapro for 15 years but as I have gotten older I am 37 the depression is so bad when I am not in a manic state. The episode lasted 2 months this time it had been 3 1/2 years since the last one. In that time I have cleaned up to only take what subscribed getting healthy but always feeling worthless etc. Not taking care of myself. I have tried meds for bipolar before but wow they are tough to work with. About 4 weeks into it I told my best friend which new there was something going on I made an appointment to meet with a psychiatrist on the 17th since not self medicating I felt all the emotions of this episode. After our talk she pulled away from me and started to be around the neighbor that called cps Lang later in the month. It was the worst at that point I would be awake for
days and I work at the school but had enough wit not to go there while this was going on. I was definitely different by actions but I take care of my child walk him to school walk up and get him after but was out of routine and was being left just like I had lepracy by the only person I had while dealing with this ungodly problem. I get a knock on door at beginning of April and it's cps with allegations of neglect there was no safety plan when he came which is a good thing I think I had to pass a drug test which I did get my pharm records I did faxed to supervisor since I couldn't reach him and he had my son's doctor records which shows we are there every 3 months he has adhd and asthma.
He spoke with my son at school which he was terrified of last week. I called supervisor on Monday she didn't know anything and I called the caseworker left him a message and haven't received anything in return. So I am severely hurt and confused about my friend she told me she didn't call cps it was Jenny the neighbor who my friend started talking to after we talked about my issues.. she said she has txt that she did it and walking to school she admitted doing it and how sorry she was......
Everything is different now I am treated like I don't exsist by everyone I new and spoke with before my episode. I went to my appointment for myself and my son to take control over this and am reading to learn everything I can about my illness it ruins everything every time. I am very self destructive not violent which really isn't any better.
I am on lithium now since last Friday. But really I feel that I am nothing and I cry I the am and pm I happen to live in between my friend and the one who called cps who was jealous from day one of what I had with her. This is so hard but I will get thru this but I don't understand what I ever did to be hurt so much.....

Sarah - posted on 04/20/2015

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Anyone can call CPS anonymously anytime. Why she called and then told you is silly as CPS can't disclose the identity of reporters. I understand you are super nervous but ultimately if you need help or your kids need help, isn't it better if help is given? Are you bipolar or just manic? If you have true mania and you don't sleep and do lotsof peculiar stuff during your manic episodes then you need help. If you have not been being treated for you issues, then you neighbor may be doing you a favor. Unless you kids are in true danger, they will not be taken from you. Rather a safety plan will be put in place. You may be required to see a psychiatrist, take meds, go to therapy, who knows...but it will only help you and your kids in the long run. If you took a drug test and passed it, then what are you most nervous about?

Jodi - posted on 04/20/2015

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So are you bipolar? I'm just trying to get some background. You have admitted you were having a manic episode. You won't necessarily be aware of how this is affecting your children. Your neighbour may have been genuinely concerned. These episodes can potentially put others in danger. Are you on medication?

They haven't taken your children by the sounds of it, so all you have to do is follow through with what they need you to do. If CPS was immediately concerned they would have likely taken your kids. But they have to investigate every report, so that's what they are doing.

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