I need some sleep..please

Gemma - posted on 08/13/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My beautiful daughter is now 6 months old and heavily reliant on my boob to go to sleep. We have always co-slept. About a month ago I put the cot next to the bed without one side of it and she is sleeping in that right up against my bed. My boob use to get her to sleep for atleast three hours straight but more and more she is waken a couple minutes after removing it from her mouth and not going back to sleep without it. She has always startled very easily and often wakes herself with flailing arms even if wrapped tightly. To add to that she has not been getting to sleep at night (into her deeper sleep) until 11pm when her pattern was 8.30pm. She just keeps waking every 1 minute-15minutes whether I am with her or not. Also she is waking up every two hours or less. Suggestions anyone? I tried to leave her with out giving her boob which makes her wide awake playing until she gets over it and starts crying again. I have also put her to bed before she falls asleep which ends the same..wakes even more, chats to herself before starting to cry. I have tried patting her to sleep, just lying with her, cuddling her, shhhing, mobile, night light, but she wants boob. If she made the choice 100% my nipple would be in her mouth allllll night and she would never let go. Ideas please.

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Yvette - posted on 08/13/2013

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My daughter was a shocker when it came to going to sleep but my son had been a dream. They are all different, so be kind to yourself. Find what works for your little one. Have you tried setting up a sleep time routine? I read to my children last thing at night from when they were born, all curled up together (in fact we still do this from time to time and they are 10 and 12 - lovely). Read for a while with cuddles, then move to the side of the bed to read. Then move to the door.
When she woke during the night, I sat in my chair in the room and read quietly using a nightlight. Just one book. No discussion. No touching. I found this worked for my daughter - controlled crying just did not work for her.
It might be interesting to watch her body to see what she is doing to self sooth while you are feeding. Does she touch your clothes or pinch your skin? There maybe something you can substitute in her cot to replace whatever it is she is doing now when she does go to sleep. You may find she is waking because that stimulus is no longer available to her.

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Darcy - posted on 08/13/2013

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Ok time to start switching her to bottles. Also remember that you have changed sleeping pattern on her don't give in to her crying or whining I know its hard but maybe ignoring her and having her in her own room would help.. also if you leave her and sit in the next room that might work too. Just don't go in until after she settles down for sleep and then don't touch or move her or even fix her blankets she will wake back up. She is used to having you there for support let her find her own support even if its a stuffed animal or a toy make sure she also has something with your smell. that will help her calm down too.

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