Camilla - posted on 05/15/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have a 10 month old girl and I'm 28 weeks pregnant. I'm so stressed beyond belief. I'm constantly stressing over bills, over everything. My husband works but seems to spend carelessly. When I tell him about it he agrees but spends anyways. I'm epileptic so I'm on disability, that's a huge stress on its own. My disability pays the rent, my husband works but seems to never have money. I have absolutely no time for myself, I mean not even an hour. And when I do have time, when baby sleeps, I am exhausted or I'm cleaning the house, my husband never cleans after himself. He comes home from work, he talks to me a but half an hour to an hour, he washes and usually goes to bed. Or by the time he's done waning the baby is sleeping. The house is a disaster, I look like a disaster, baby is always cranky so it's VERY hard to take her anywhere. I don't spend any money in myself, I'm disaplined with money so I never ask for anything knowing we have so little. I use to go swimming often, paint to lots of art. Now nothing, and I understand I have a baby lol. But it would be nice to not worry about bills and food for a while, because of somthing I can't control. I thought about leaving him, but it woud be hard being epileptic, with 2 babies alone. It would be hard to pay rent and feed the babies and take care of myself. However I wonder if it would be more or less stressful then it is now. We've been together for 9 years, and financially it seems to be getting worse as the years go by. I feel like pulling out my hair, I can't take being stressed over the baby, the new baby, there is still no crib for the new baby, bills, car, my health, his work. He tells me he's very stressed, I believe it, but he's the only one that can fix it, pay bills on time, look for another job, I can't do those things for him. I tried helping with money. I sold my diamond ring for $4000 and he spend it on "materials" for work, I never got that money back. I won $40,000 for a car accident, he used it up for "materials" and times when he dint have work. I don know what to do. He's stressed, but he can fix this, I really don't know what to do.