I need very personal advice or opinions of mothers or anyone who has and still raising a child or children that were being sexually abused by there father possibly grandfather too and grandma don't say a word. My first issue of many is one my 5 year old daughter and 4 year old son both tell me dads hitting and sexually abusing them and my older daughter who is 12 now its been accusations for a year now I have had DSS involved 4 times since may 2010 and are now again involved finally with some belief that I am not crazy and are getting to the bottom of all this. My 12 year old daughter out rite calls my little ones liars and how great her dad is how he would never do anything to hurt them . My little ones say she's afraid to death of him. I have some strange questions of weird behavior or habbit's my 12 year old has. Parents who have been through this I would suppose could help me wether or not it's normal . 1. She is very obsessed with keeping certain cloths in this overbite bag she keeps on her floor that's only for when she goes with dad or grandparents where he lives sometimes. The few times I went into that bag and realized how dirty her cloths were i would wash them and put them back before she woke up due to not wanting her to yell and cry saying don't wash grandmas stuff only odd thing is I never could find her underware and began wondering if she wore the same ones . I then noticed she had been putting underware in her garbage in her bathroom all balled up. I asked her about it and she said oh those were old and i have new ones. as months went on i watched her under ware just start disapearing . I asked her again because i noticed her putting toliet paper in her underware and times a very thin small pad . Reason for that is when she was 4 she had extra skin around her vagina called adhesions a steroid cream would help but at 4 a surgeon decide to remove them but said they can come back. At this point in time she did have some skin starting to cover and our doctor did say she can leak urine that would get caught . Because of that I was just pulling my hair out . I took her for her follow up and the doctor was surprised they were gone . My daughter is still using toliet paper in her underware . She has slept with my ex husbands shirts and hugs them says how much she loves him and the texting and him telling her when to breath and when to not the control he has , it's like she's obsessed with him saying she is smart goodlookin just like her dad she dont have me in her at all. The first 2 times in the last 2 years I had to take her phone from her because her dad had her under his spell to the degree she was having emotionally horrible break downs she screamed and cried no no trying to get her phone back saying please let me see his text please. I literally felt like I was fighting with my own daughter and some boyfriend she was obsesed with . When here my god it was my ex husband of 15 years and my at the time 10 year old baby girl. 2. She has this certain sleeping bag and for a year in a half she had to have it a certain way on the living room floor not her room without a pillow and zipped up a certain way. My daughter and I for 10 years shared the same heart untill 2010 when my ex moved out he never acknowledged her at all untill then it all started . Now 2 years later I have managed by pure torture to pull half my girls heart back and the more I get the more she opens up . She looks at me as this low life who's is stupid and has this horrible image of me treats me like dirt I can't even cook wrong or i am a bad mom. Her father on the other hand smokes weed pops pills does cocaine bla bla bla , but that dont matter he is God to her she has found his drugs and still will say to me he dont do them . For a year he convinced her that I was a drug addict . Me telling her i wasen't was not good enough It has taken me a year but I have finally proved to her I was not just for being myself. This whole situation is just enormous and awful but I can say I am on top now but bearly hanging on because there Dad is a professional manipulator. It took me going to jail twice for social services to wake up and see he is sick and on drugs because he convinced them for almost a year that i was . I volunteered to take drug test and followed through with everything they said and again just been the person I really am social services now finally see's his sick drug addict ass. There are more symptoms I want to know about I will post them as they come but really want to get this out there if anyone can help .
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