I really don't know whether my 4 year old is telling the truth or lying about a serious matter, when she goes to her dads every fortnight

Parveen - posted on 11/16/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter has told her teacher that her dad locked her up in a suitcase. I am totally devastated and heart broken. When i questioned her, she said she lied about it. I asked her, why did you lie and she just said i don't know.

Now i'm so confused, i really don't know what to do.

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Barb - posted on 11/16/2011

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Do you have any reason to believe he'd be mean to her or hurt her? Does the teacher believe it?

Kids do have a way of elaborating and making something sound worse than it is. My husband and son were playing one time. My son would jump on the bed, wrestle with us and my husband would roll him off the bed. Jr would jump up "HA! didn't hurt me none!" and jump back on the bed. In one of these jumps, he was headed right for my husband's manly bits. My husband put his knee up in a reflex motion and my son's face came down on my husband's knee.

He did get a black eye, even though i put frozen peas on it and meat tenderizer. The next day he was playing at the neighbors. She came down and wanted to talk to me in private. She asked; "how did Jr get a black eye?" So i told her how. She laughed and said, "you might want to talk to him, he just told me that your husband kicked him in the face" And maybe from Jr's perspective, Doug's leg did hit his face.

So maybe her dad had suitcases out and they were goofing off and wanted to see if she fit inside.. i can so see that happening. So she curls up, he closes the flap, maybe even zips it, then unzips it and lets her out..

I don't know, i'd be more concerned if she were terrified to go see him again and she had unexplainable bruises.

Do you and her father have a relationship where you could actually ask him about it?

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Sharlene - posted on 11/16/2011

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Probably requst supervise visitation if theres abuse or go back to court.I really do wish you luck darls

Sharlene - posted on 11/16/2011

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Have you asked the father if it's true??? and I would try to sit down with her and talk about it more and if there is abuse there phone social wellfare to investagate the matter.Do you's have a legeal document in place of the child custody?????

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