I split up with my 8 year olds father when he was only 8 months old. he lives in the same town as me now and although we had a terrilbe relationship. he abused me mentally and physically. He is a terrific father to our son. he sees him a couple of times a week and my son worships him. He does not pay child support either. I have recently got engaged to another man and we will be getting married next year and moving 2 hours away from where I live now. My son is not one bit happy about me getting married and its not because he dosnt like my fiance because he does really get on with him. He just dosnt want me to marry anyone only his father.And now he keeps telling me that he dosnt want ot move either.. I just dont know what to do. ?????

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Dove - posted on 09/10/2012

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What does the court order say about moving and visitation? Living 2 hours away might make it a bit difficult for your son to see his father a couple of times a week.



What does the father say about you moving? Have you discussed what visitation will look like after the move? If visitation will change the father CAN take you to court and fight your move. The judge may or may not allow it depending on if you can prove this move is also in the best interest of your son and that however visitation changes your son will still have ample time with his father. You may also be required to pay any additional costs (gas and drive time?) to ensure that your son still has his visitations with his father.

Amy - posted on 09/10/2012

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What does your custody agreement say? What will visits look like after the move? It doesn't matter if he pays support he still has a right to see his son. I wouldnt be surprised if he takes you to court to try and stop the move.

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Sob - posted on 09/10/2012

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we never went to court when we split. so there is no set times or hours. whenever they want to see each other they can. i never stopped that. And iv told both my son and his father that I can bring him to stay with him every second weekend and all school holidays whenever they want then. the move would benifit my son a great deal, because where i live at the moment is a very rough area. lots of crime e.t.c. and we will be moving to a lovely place.

Sob - posted on 09/10/2012

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yes he knows we are going to move, and at the start he started throwing loads of abuse at me. now he dosnt say anything. iv made it clear to both my son and his father that i am willing to bring him to see him every second weekend, and any holidays at school that my son wants to stay with him also.

Jodi - posted on 09/10/2012

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Does your son's father know you are moving so far away? How does HE feel about it?

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