I think I have postnatal depression, I have a 3 year old and 9 week old, I can't stop crying, I'm pushing my partner away and I can't talk to any1 I don't know what to do

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Realistic - posted on 09/20/2012

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I've been coping with depression since I was pregnant with my first, over 6 years ago now. As others have commented, this is absolutely a medical condition. If it was cancer, you wouldn't expect to handle it on your own, right? Help is necessary, and reaching out is a sign of strength on your part!



It's been drilled into me, these past years, what the essentials are: support; rest; and the right medications.



Support means a few things: someone to talk to (who doesn't judge), help with work around the house, help with childcare so you can have a few moments to yourself.



Rest means sleep! And even just resting, not spinning around feeling like you need to be accomplishing tasks (but not getting anything done, because everything looms up like an impossible job). Take care of yourself.



The right meds can make all the difference in the world. Life becomes possible again. So stay open to your doctor's suggestions regarding dosage and type of drug. BUT do be warned that when adjusting (or beginning) a medication, the symptoms of depression may become worse in the short term. I've learned to step outside of my head and tell myself that things will seem better in a few days.



I'm so glad you've been able to get some support from your doctor! Hang in there, it will get better.

Vicki - posted on 09/17/2012

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The doctors gave me tablets and I'm going to speak to someone, can't wait to start feeling better and have fun with the kids again

Bobbie - posted on 09/17/2012

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THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT YOU WILL BE FEELING BETTER VERY SOON!



NO MORE GUILTY INNER VOICE DEMANDS OKAY?



GET LOTS OF REST / RELAX AT MUM'S HOUSE AND GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO RE=BALANCE.

Vicki - posted on 09/16/2012

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Thank you :) I'm going to the doctors tomorrow and I've taken the kids and gone to my mums for a few days, hopefully I'll feel better soon I hate feeling this way

Tina - posted on 09/16/2012

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I'm sorry you're struggling at the moment. I've felt like this too. I have a 1 and 2 year old. Don't be ashamed to talk to someone and don't be scared there are people out there that can help listen and they're not there to judge and they cannot take your kids.



Sometimes it can make the world of difference just having someone who'll listen without judgment a good friend or relative.



There are free online counsellors you can talk to if you need to. I have. Don't blame yourself.



You're husband is being mean and not supportive. Now is the time he should be caring for you more not using it as an excuse for his actions.



http://www.headspace.org.au/ this is an Australian site but it should be helpful. I've gone on there when I've just felt like I've had enough and I found it a little bit helpful.



Also if you can just try to get a little bit of sunshine if possible I go out for walks but even if that's just sitting outside in the sun for a few minutes helps a bit. It sound silly but little things like sunshine and going for walks actually releases hormones that make you feel good. I find it makes me feel better.

Bobbie - posted on 09/16/2012

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Seek professional help now! Insurance covers the talk sessions and the stabilizing medications.

It is not up to you to balance your life when your brain is chemically altered with hormones! It is a medical condition that will improve all of your lives.

Make that doctor appointment with primary care doctor today!

Vicki - posted on 09/16/2012

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Wow! What a jerk. Do NOT let him blame you for his choices. You just had a baby and are going through some emotional changes and he cant even be bothered to try and comfort you or even understand why you are feeling the way you do. You dont derserve or need that!

I know its hard and your probably feeling scared but you really should consider councelling, It may help you to talk to someone about how your feeling, you may learn some skills to cope and set boundaries

Vicki - posted on 09/16/2012

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He said the reason he did it because I was crying and I didn't look nice I dont make the effort to look good and I wouldn't sleep with him :(

Vicki - posted on 09/15/2012

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you being to emotional is not a excuse for him to have a affair! please know that and i hope your not blamming yourself for his cheating. Is it possible to talk to someone? There must be someone you can trust to share your feelings with

Melinda - posted on 09/15/2012

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I had some of the same feelings. I was able to talk about my feelings. Please get help, there are support groups. No one will take your children away.

Vicki - posted on 09/15/2012

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Hes not trying to help me, hes been seeing someone else because I've been to emotional for he's liking

Vicki - posted on 09/15/2012

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Your not alone though, please dont push your husband away embrace the support he is trying to give you. If going to a doctor isnt what your ready to do, have you considered maybe going to a natural food store? Maybe you can talk to someone there about postpartum and see what kind of supplement they would recommend.?

Vicki - posted on 09/15/2012

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postpartum depression is absolutley normal nobody would take your kids away for that

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