Meredith - posted on 04/07/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
I want to start off by apologizing to any parents of autistic children if my post comes across as whiny or complain-y. Obviously if my toddler does turn out to be autistic, nothing will change the way I feel about him. I just have never been down that path before with my older boys and I don't even know how I would do it.
I'm a SAHM of a 22-month-old boy and we inadvertently started attachment parenting as soon as he was born. I had no idea what attachment parenting even was then, but it just felt right to co-sleep and nurse on demand. He has slept with us every night since we brought him home; he still nurses whenever he wants; and although I will eventually break this habit (I hope), it's the least of my concerns right now. My issue is, his 2-year appointment is coming in June, and he doesn't talk. He also doesn't do a lot of the other things he should be doing at this age (2-3 word sentences, pointing to what he wants, listen to directions, etc.). He knows what the cow says, and will say "ruff ruff ruff" if he sees a doggy on TV, and occasionally he will close an open drawer if asked or throw trash away. To me, these are good signs that he does listen; maybe he's just stubborn and only does things when he wants. But as we get closer to 2 years, I seriously want to cry every day. Every article I read says he should be saying things like "pick me up" or "want milk" or something similar; but he is nowhere near this. I don't even know what to do. He is funny, and so beautiful, but I feel like there is something wrong. When we go to the playground, he doesn't talk like the other kids around his age; he just runs around screaming (in a good way, like a wild man scream) and picking up sand. My other issue is, he is very tall, so he looks like a 3-year-old; this is fine with me, except we're constantly getting stared at by people who think he's older and possibly mentally challenged. I find myself constantly explaining that he's just big for his age, he's not talking yet, etc. but inside I want to explode. Can someone relate to this? Were any of your kids late talkers? Is his screaming normal? If he is autistic or mentally challenged, we will be ok. I guess I just hate not knowing which way this is going to go. I want so much for him and no matter how much I try to say "tell mommy what you want" or "use your words", it doesn't work.